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I don't really understand why people do it. Not like "they're doing it because they are depressed and feel bad", I had depression myself but never had a call to injure myself. I hate pain, and doing something painful to myself while I'm already feeling bad doesn't really sound appealing. So I don't quite get what self-harm gives people so they keep doing it.

Like, is it a way to "ground" yourself and stop dissociating, or is it "just to feel anything at all", or as a "punishment", or something else?

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[–] Peruvian_Skies@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Or maybe seeing this habit be discussed openly and without prejudice will help some people to feel less like a freak for doing it when they realize that others do too, or will encourage them to seek help.

I know it's a horse of a different color, but the last time my depression got really bad I started smoking. I felt awfully guilty about it for months until my therapist said that it was natural for me to seek out endorphins however I could when I was failing to get them the natural way. That relieved the guilt, which in turn made me less psychologically dependent on cigarettes. Accepting that I smoked and that it was not ideal but still okay actually helped me to quit smoking later on, coupled with my regular therapy. Why would you deny that to people with other unhealthy habits? Or maybe you think that inhaling cancer smoke several times per day isn't a form of self-harm?

[–] DogMuffins@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Discussing something with a therapist is an entirely different proposition to reading about it online.

[–] Peruvian_Skies@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

And why does that imply that reading about it online isn't helpful?

[–] DogMuffins@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 1 year ago

It doesn't imply that it isn't helpful.

Clearly, there are risks around this type of discussion which a therapist is trained to manage.