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People keep telling me that dating today is a war zone, facing all kinds of challenges.

Dating apps don't seem to be directly trying to help solve the problem as much as generate revenue. In fact, they are very directly motivated to not make great long term matches.

Some people seem think that just getting out there and hoping for the best is the answer. Maybe that's true, but it's still very random. I was wondering about a hypothetical alternative:

What if you could go to an agency of some kind get rated through a thorough evaluation process? Would that be helpful ? It's not perfect, and many things are hard to measure. But maybe it's a less random starting point and can escape the exclusively money driven approach of dating apps.

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[–] cheesymoonshadow@lemmings.world 4 points 2 months ago

I didn't meet my wife by hunting for a wife. I met her doing fun things with other fun people, in whom I had no romantic interest whatsoever

Been with my husband 23 years, married for 20. I met him when I had given up on romance and was just exploring new hobbies with friends.

Btw the hobby was swing dancing, and I recommend dance class to everybody. It's fun, active, social, and gives you confidence at weddings and other parties. Finding a romantic partner is just bonus.