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Sorry for the potentially controversial question: is it normal for less attractive people to settle down with partners they don't find physically attractive? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 3 months ago by RebiJes@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, the other respondent's theory seems to be that she'll figure it out, but won't ever bring it up because she's just so damn glad that someone more conventionally attractive likes her. I don't think I can rely on that.

I'm certain she's aware there's people who have unconventional tastes, and part of the reason she seems like a good choice for me is that she wouldn't beat around the bush if that's what she wanted.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Honestly I never minded being "minority attractive" when I was, because the guys who thought me good looking really seemed to find me beautiful, and almost nobody is really universally physically attractive. She doesn't need you specifically to be into her looks, let her find someone who is. Someone is, I cannot believe otherwise based on what I have seen. (Like my ex, into body types I find grotesque, or the guys I dated when I was underweight who just were so fat-phobic that I could have been a skeleton and they would have approved.)

Someone is into her specific physical being, never doubt it. Don't mess with her head.

[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 3 months ago

Yes, I don't want to do that. Messing with her head is the last thing I would want to do.