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Hello fellow lemmy's , A bit of back story. I'm currently stuck with a decision and don't know what way to take it , I've moved back to my home city a month ago to be close to family and friends after a 3 year relationship ended, now that I've settled in I'm starting to regret the choice in moving , my job is based back where I moved from and friends have offered me place to stay until I get on my feet.

There is a lot I miss about where I lived and finding it difficult to see a future here, would you guys stay and ride out the feeling or go with your gut ?

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[โ€“] jeena@jemmy.jeena.net 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I would even go one little step further, a weighted list of positives and negatives, then you can just apply math to see from the data what the right answer is.

And exactly, once you see it written down - even if the data tells you the opposite - you will have quite a clear feeling of what you really want to do.

[โ€“] Raisin8659@monyet.cc 3 points 1 year ago

This! I did this, and the resulting weighted score went against my feelings. So, I adjusted the weights until it came out the way I want. It's not rational, but that was exactly what I wanted given the choices.