Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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The best advice I could give is to follow your happiness first, the label second. When I first started experimenting i felt like men's clothing was a chain so I tried more women's, read gender trouble decided that agender made the most sense for me and wore whatever I wanted. It wasn't until a few months of that did a stranger greet me as "Ma'am" and it sorts stopped my heart.
Once I realized being seen as a woman made me happy, why stop? Why EVER stop? Labels don't define who we are, but they are helpful little handholds to communicate with others. So instead of telling people that I am non-binary agender who enjoys traditional femininity, I say "woman" because that's just easier for everyone. That doesn't mean it's the only way you could describe me, but it's the one that makes life easier.
If this helps, I assure you that no trans person will ever accuse you of "stolen valor" for questioning and figuring yourself out. This is a super duper common experince we all have at some point, and if all you can say for sure is that you don't feel cis that's more than enough! Labels exists only so others can understand you better, figure yourself out first! If all you know is queer and questioning well that's more than enough! There is no wrong answers and only you can decide on what's the right one.
I know this is hard, but I'm proud of anyone who interrogates themselves to see what's truly inside. I'm proud of you for making this post! But try not to worry about what others may feel, focus more on how their perception makes YOU feel. Gender is a performance, but you yourself are the audience.