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What would you like to change about Lemmy culture? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 5 months ago by PinkyCoyote@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I've found that the the instance is incredibly toxic with the cultivated "dunking" culture rewarding participating in insular, anti-social behavior for Internet clout and mods participating in sectarianism by disingenuously labeling non-ML leftist voices and critical historical analysis as fash.

Depends on what you consider leftist, I suppose. As a community, Hexbear isn't toxic at all, just firmly anti-liberal. There isn't really a culture around "dunking," at least not in my experience.

If I want a struggle session, I go on Lemmy.ml, if I want to relax, Hexbear is more friendly. At least, that's my personal experience, as a recovering debate-bro.

[–] nickwitha_k@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Perhaps there's been some changes - that would make me extremely happy. I had generally good experiences initially but saw more and more attacking of users not from Hexbear or .ml instances, frequently over nothing but misunderstanding or miscommunication with no quarter or space for clearing up misunderstanding given even to other anticapitalists. It got to the point where I blocked the instance due to the negative impact on my own well-being that I noticed from the unnecessary strife and aggression that I saw and experienced. To be fair, some of it could be misperception and/or RSD on my part as one who is neurodivergent and frequently concerned about being misinterpreted or unintentionally phrasing something incorrectly.

At least, that's my personal experience, as a recovering debate-bro.

That's awesome. There are some great and chill comms there - maybe I might to reconsider the instance block and be more judicious in blocking only comms where I find problematic behavior. The only other instance that I have blocked is that sports one that was clogging up my feed with stuff that I find boring.

[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 2 points 5 months ago

I've found that the the instance is incredibly toxic with the cultivated "dunking" culture rewarding participating in insular, anti-social behavior for Internet clout and mods participating in sectarianism by disingenuously labeling non-ML leftist voices and critical historical analysis as fash.

It might make contextual sense to browse it from Hexbear. There's a ton of activity on it for the size of the userbase, and a lot of it is fun, comfy, and chill. The news threads are always more serious, and there is the dunk tank, but those are parts of a whole.