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As a side note, I'm in the tech world for a career. Predominantly male. Perhaps predominately white, though I can't speak to those statistics - the environment is more diverse every day. That said, I met a friend back in 2015. She's smart, eloquent, and overall extremely talented. I've seen her get passed over for promotions; I've seen clients engage her unfairly, by making statements like, "are you getting the engineer?" Because they were expecting a man. Anyway, a lot of us in our inner circle suspected her boyfriend of physically harming her. For years. But there was never any concrete evidence. After 8 or 9 years of friendship for me, perhaps 12 or 13 for others in our circle, she cut off all contact with us. She sent a message saying, "I can't talk to any of you, it's not right. You are all married and I'm engaged." She never spoke to us again. This was about 6 months ago.

Said circle, also, is not all male. 3 males, 2 or 3 female, plus spouses. One trans man and his wife. Pretty diverse in all aspects.

So anyway, 2 months ago she up and quits her job. Straight up leaves. No exit interview, no reason, nothing.

I am about 99.99% sure that she's in some kind of mentally abusive relationship. Her boyfriend had control over her when she was at work with us. We gave her opportunities to tell us. She chose her path.

It saddens me often when I think about it. But it doesn't affect my opinion on this LTT story....

Bottom line, beyond any contestation - the right thing to do would have been to report it to the the correct authorities; not us.

That they didn't, alone, is enough to completely discredit the entire story. To claim ignorance, in 2023, of what should have been done is just bullshit.

What happens, then, when the storm blows over and this is all proven to be false? Are ya'll gonna come back here and admit you were wrong? Going to start following LTT again? Nah, the herd has left and moved on. Ya'll will pretend to be enthused by the delivery of the dude at Gamer's Nexus, despite his content being less thrilling than simply reading the spec sheet. (Just saying, his delivery is terrible, though I respect the channel.)

If it comes out that this was all a lie, it might just be too late.

All of this just solidifies, in my mind and those who can think critically outside of a herd mentality, that this is fabrication. The accusations made didn't happen in a family behind closed doors, they happened out in the open. Do we think that the LTT facilities don't have cameras covering every square inch? Get with it. They record everything, I'm sure. This person didn't go to the police because there probably isn't anything to go to the police about.

Unless we're all to believe that everything that happened was in the one place where cameras never went, every single time? That none of it occurred on any kind of technology that would or could be audited, right?

Use your brain brochacho. These are the fabrications of someone who is mentally unstable. Not of a victim. Unless... a victim of their own mind.

It absolutely matters. The employee chose to take accusations public, rather than following appropriate channels of either the corporate HR or legal authorities. I don't know how it works up there in Canada, but these accusations get taken seriously in the U.S.

Great value add. Did you have any input or just here to assert your domineering intelligence? Back to reddit, maybe?

Me too, though I'm not female. I've seen some of my female friends treated poorly - by clients, though, never my org. I just don't think it happened to this person. The fact that, well, they'll share the whole story to the world right now - but never told anyone else while it was occurring? Seems sketch. Doesn't jive.

That whole notion of, "I was embarrassed and couldn't tell anyone" to suddenly pronouncing accusations to the whole world over social media; as opposed to the legal authorities... seems damned sketchy to me.