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What matters is the signals she gave him and how he read and responded to them.

If she gave signals of "please leave me alone" then whether he's creepy or not depends on how he responded, regardless of how he looks.

Him being a positive and personable presence near her over a stretch of time, especially if she gave signals of being in the neutral-to-positive range towards him, is fine. The most important thing is that if he eventually shot his shot - and the response was "no thank you" - that he accept this answer gracefully.

Lots of women actually prefer to meet guys through their social circle because it's an easier way to meet guys who their friends can give their own impressions about and who are less likely to be assholes. It sounds like it turned out well here, although we're missing a lot of information.

Funny how "self awareness" has two meanings here. It's the essence of what makes humans the smartest animals, but the problem you're referring to—lack of self reflection—is one of the most common problems amongst people today. Common sense ain't so common.

Like most popular social media sites, you usually won't see very valuable discussion in the comments, at least in my experience. It's mostly for people to post news, research, and so on, and follow the big names or organizations in their field.

Most of the valuable information is diffused via posts but I do put a bit of time and effort into trying to filter out all the crap posts like memes, the faux inspirational stuff, self-aggrandizing nonsense, etc.

Yeah I don't care. I'm not here to make exceptions for pedophiles and abusers.

Okay, and if it happened years ago but the victim is now 14 instead of 6 and they're still in the same environment as their abuser?

"Giving (potential) victimizers a line of support via organized religion to try to help them not commit sex crimes against children (in the future, or again)" is not a good argument because it has been shown time and time again that religious institutions cannot be trusted to reliably take the correct course of action and be accountable. That is the role of the government and law enforcement. It is unacceptable to put the feelings of adults over the safety of children and other victims, and organized religions have a tendency to protect those with power and influence over protecting the vulnerable.

So let me get this straight. You're saying that a member of clergy should be allowed to hear an adult say, "I molested that child last week" and not have to report it?

Is that what you are saying? I want to hear it from you straight.

Sure, in the short term. I've switched to DDG and I'm not getting another Pixel when I need a new phone, and hoards of tech savvy people are feeling the same way. Dissatisfaction is causing them to lose customers and talent.

Eventually, they'll start feeling it in their bottom line. And by then it might be too late to change course.

I recognize that my intrusive thoughts are my own, but this term existing is helpful because: 1) some people incorrectly believe that thoughts imply a desired outcome, and this term helps explain and describe that this isn't always the case and 2) it's a meaningful and useful way of categorizing these types of thoughts for the purposes of psychology, psychiatry, understanding ourselves better, etc.

In cases like severe OCD, classifying intrusive thoughts as such could help someone understand and cope with disturbing thoughts and develop subsequent coping mechanisms. Not everyone's the same and some terms can be helpful.

what in particular shows that Gary Marcus is uniformed? I dislike him because he's dogmatic and petty but I haven't seen a specific thing he's been wrong about, but I'd love examples.

Really neat that water can turn into a conductive metal at high enough pressures such as in the core of Neptune.

The fact that the effects of insane pressure on matter could get us closer to being able to generate fusion power is awesome and kind of scary.

Intent is part of it as well. If you have too many people who want to use your service, you're not being attacked, you have an actual shortage of ability to service requests and need to adjust accordingly.