bakachu

joined 1 year ago
[–] bakachu@lemm.ee 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I share that sentiment- that poor person. To society's credit, I have not yet seen any posts or articles with an image or their identity. Hopefully it stays that way.

[–] bakachu@lemm.ee 5 points 1 year ago

Agree, would rather my money went to a local firm with an actual person who I can consistently contact for questions. Did this a few years ago for an especially challenging tax year. Absolutely 0 regrets - if I had done it via self-serve software I would've missed out on quite a few unknown tax assists that the accountant found.

[–] bakachu@lemm.ee 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Huh I did not know this. CK was my backup to FT USA but that is indeed some sneaky shit. I'm scared now for FT USA - PLEASE DO NOT SELL OUT.

[–] bakachu@lemm.ee 18 points 1 year ago

I use TurboTax ina free way - calculate all my taxes using their amazing software and then when the numbers match on the free site, I file there. That's the beauty of TurboTax that you can exploit. I feel it's fair game knowing they make the software open and then trick people who have calculated everything out to pay a ridiculous amount for the filing fee at the end.

[–] bakachu@lemm.ee 21 points 1 year ago

I just got these buttons (from Amazon as well lol). Apparently the cat isn't pushing them because I haven't recorded the right words that would allow them to communicate their disdain for me.

[–] bakachu@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

I read somewhere that the US has one of the largest, if not THE largest, percentage of population incarcerated. I feel like there's overall more people who know someone, at least some distant relative, who served time than not, so it's shocking to see such a large outcry on even super liberal social media sites, like reddit, for prisoners to get raped, assaulted, killed and/or generally mistreated. So that empathy may be a long ways away.

[–] bakachu@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Not sure if this is your intent but your comment might be coming off the same as, "Why don't you just stop being sad?" To people suffering from depression. Mental disorders and addictions are legitimate diseases and can be extremely complex to diagnose and treat. It's really unfortunate that Steve Harwell died under those circumstances. His music brought joy to a lot of people.

[–] bakachu@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

I've seen a video or two of that. I had also heard that people would attend his concerts to see him go off the rails. It's so unfortunate he hated the song that brought him so much success. I know a lot of people think its been overplayed, but It's just a fun, catchy, light-hearted song.

[–] bakachu@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

Nice to see you made the most of the holiday. Celebrated similarly by laboring a 12-hour day! No music like you though - just labor. The entire day I wondered why I don't celebrate Labor Day in the purest fashion more often.

 

Any local folks know what's needed out there and where to go? I want to help but also times like this is when sometimes scams pop up.

[–] bakachu@lemm.ee 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This may be overly cautious, but I recommend making a log and gathering evidence for if/when this escalates further. Keep in mind that at 17 she is still a minor, so there is an additional burden of responsibility that is imposed upon you and your partner in every interaction you have with her. Get dates, times, and statements from your brother and partner on the 2 occasions she entered your home and slept over, in particular. The last thing you want to deal with is a false accusation from this kid who does not seem to regard nor respect your boundaries, which you have set clear at this point. Get security cameras. Document everything ongoing. I personally wouldn't block her texts for now.

Next step is to inform her legal guardians, in this case her parents, that she is not welcome on your property nor to contact you or your partner. I would do it in some form of writing - email or text, again for the sake of evidence. At this point the responsibility for her actions shifts to them. If she is on your doorstep contact them directly and expect immediate action. You can also inform them that you have concerns over her mental health.

Once these are done, you have real actionable choices that you can take. I know it sucks having to feel like a bad guy in this scenario, but it sounds like she needs professional help. Her parents are the ones to blame here.