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Seeing all the recent news I can't help but feel the US is not a fun place to be right now.

I sincerely hope the political landscape calms the fuck down soon, and all of you can focus on the real issues again. It is beyond unreasonable how much attention some of these culture war topics are getting. It is also obviously a divide and conquer strategy and someone needs to break that cycle.

Are you applying for a job that has you representing the company to the public in any way? If so, you might find yourself less free in your appearance than you would if you have a desk job. And it's likely not just about being trans, but other things like piercings, tattoos and hair styles as well.

I'm not sure how well woker's rights are represented in law, either on a state basis or in the USA in general. But you might want to consider finding out with the interview if your potential employer really respects you being trans or not, even if you do so without actually mentioning you're trans. And if not I'm inclined to say the job is not a safe place for you. If you leave this up to chance, you might be in for a nasty surprise later on in your career there.

But I guess it all depends on how long you can afford to look for a job where you're going to be respected for who you really are. If you need work fast, there's also the option of just taking the job stealthily and almost immediately looking for a new job from there. All while pocketing the employment experience, which definitely helps your chances finding other work.

Ultimately there are two things you need to prove in an interview (if you're dealing with reasonable people and not bigots): Whether your personality doesn't make you clash with the colleagues you'll be working with. Wether your skillset matches what the employer is looking for, and employers have this bad habit of not mentioning wanted soft skills in the ad.

Do those two well and the only thing ruining your chances is your potential employer being a twisted bigoted piece of shit, in which case it's their loss.

Next level truck nuts. 🤣

Haha, somehow there is always a relevant XKCD.

Yeah that's a good point. Lemmy userbase in general might be biased. Definitely feel bad for all the women genuinely interested in tech fields who have to put up with the sausage fest shenanigans.

Ah see, you got me there. I'll be sure to keep that in mind and do things very gayly from now on.

Oh yes, definitely. Having rough edges, or a bad side humanizes a character, which has been proven to lead to more relatable and likeable characters. It's the driving force behind the whole antihero thing.

The good examples are definitely out there, but all of them are niche and the problem is likely that big productions are afraid of taking a risk by not trying to please everyone. Which also explains why recent large productions all have this shitty writing that feels artificial. Doesn't matter if it's feminism, LGBTQ+ themes, representation of ethnic minorities or just the cookie cutter cis white protagonist. They manage to enshittify everything by playing it safe.

That's a nice take! It is indeed the absurdity of it all that probably does it. My comment was more of a shower thought inspired by this post than a direct reaction to it.

As you can probably tell from my choice of pronouns, I'm still figuring out what the concept of "being gay" even means to me. Though there's probably no point to doing so. Which only makes being called gay even funnier to me.

That, and of course the ridiculous concepts of what does and does not make you gay, that are going around. But that's part of the original joke.

Anyone else feel like there have been so many different ways the word "gay" has been used as a slur - both ironically and unironically - that the whole concept just kinda doesn't work anymore?

The only response my brain produces these days is just giggling and moving on. Like if your intentions are to shock me, I'm afraid that ship has sailed. Best thing I can compare it to is how poop jokes stop being funny when you hit a certain age, and start being a different kind of funny once you hit another.

But it probably really depends on your environment. Obviously if you do feel negatively about the whole, that's a completely valid stance to take. Don't think of this as me trying to ifluence what should and should not offend you.

Seems like a definitive answer requires more research with higher sample size.

I've also noticed a difference in online exposure, and the difference in subscriber counts between FtM and MtF communities on Blåhaj Lemmy also suggest it's real thing.

But there's also the possibility that people don't want to identify with the "trans" label. Since modern models of gender identity require it to be treated as a high-dimensional vector, the spectrum representation probably doesn't cut it for a larger amount of people than we might be aware of.

Nothing wrong with a proper scream every now and then. Venting is a healthy practise.

I noticed the same thing from the original pie chart OP posted. Turns out there is research supporting the hypothesis that there are less people identifying as binary trans male overall.

Still really interested to see what the results of this poll will be, keeping in mind that the numbers may be influenced by non-subscribers and users from across the fediverse.

Edit: whoops, corrected "transmasculine" to "binary trans male" to avoid confusion.