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Probably not the person you might want answering this, but I'll share my two cents anyway:

I believe men are somehow shit outta luck if not conforming to the strong, tall, muscular, athletic and handsome ideal that seems to be peak masculinity. Although there seems to be an improvement on that front. Further normalising the androgynous look is going to help a lot of transmasc people feel less anxiety about passing. Not in the least because some of these aspects about the general beauty standard for men are unrealistic, even for cis men.

As for me, I'm more than happy to contribute to normalise the androgynous look. I've never been happier with my appearance than since I've been experimenting with incorporating more feminine traits. Growing my hair out, getting a more feminine haircut, dyeing my hair, braiding my hair, removing body hair, styling eyebrows, that sort of thing. Oh, and most important of all, just doing all of this while never elaborating on it. It's always just "hey this is my new thing, I will not be taking questions on this".

I feel like men should not be denied those sorts of thing while still being considered men. And all of us should be free to pursue our own beauty standards. Now to make society submit to those truths...

you're right btw about romania being hostile to queer ppl, mostly the older folk

Most eastern European countries follow the same blueprint of the elderly being exremely conservative. The youngsters are usually damaged in a way where they are more tolerant, but have some weird homo-/transphobic tendencies. And then there's people like you who are just trying to live their lives the way they feel they should. Never give up on that!

Now I don't presume to know what kind of relationship you have with your parents. But judging from some of the stories I've seen on this community alone, taking away hormones is probably not even close to the most damaging thing your parents could do to you. So I might be blowing things way out of proportion here, but just in case: Be absolutely sure they're not going to kick you out to the streets or otherwise put you in danger before you're in a position where you being a minor no longer impacts your life.

Also don't underestimate what the hormones will do to your body. Two whole years is a lot of time for changes to take effect, including things you might not be able to hide as easily. Two years is a long time to keep a secret from your immediate family, and there are probably going to be moments where simply "boymoding" is not going to cut it.

Then there's the leaving the country part, which is likely not going to be a magic solution either. The good news is that you have two years to research everything you need to know in order to find some safety in your life. And I hate to say it, but financial security is going to be a big part of that, as it allows you more freedom to avoid places that are regretably not safe for trans folk. The harsh reality is that this becomes exponentially easier if you're either talented or highly educated, since most of the safer countries will more readily hand out work visa to those more beneficial to the local economy and job market.

Don't get the wrong idea, definitely not trying to talk you out of your plans! Just trying to make sure you're several steps ahead and have planned for all sorts of situations. So the common denominator in all of this is "make sure you're prepared and keep planning ahead".

Other than that I wish you all the best, and good luck on your journey.

Not questioning your decisions, but it sounds like you're doing this solo, and likely without parents knowing about it. If that's the case, you might want to think ahead to what will happen if someone does find out.

If you're not in a position where you can trust an adult enough to tell them you're transitioning (for whatever reason that may be), you're likely not going to have a safety net when you do transition. Please think over who might support you in your efforts to become the person you want to be. Especially in a country like Romania, where anything LGBTQ+ is under increasing stress from bigots.

So no, you're not being stupid for asking for help online, but please make sure you know if you can trust anyone from your personal surroundings going forward.

Yeah, definitely would be interesting to see if the results change. If time permits I might contribute some ideas for the survey. Or if I actually remember to do so, whichever fails first.

Hey at least they hit with the "you will regret this", so the receiver knows in advance there's not going to be an end to the words to come.

Oh I like that one better!

I swear I'm a good girl...

For this reason I bow my knees before the Father Ephesians 3:14

Lot's of fun yet to be had taking other passages out of context.

Yes, definitely need more of these! I'll try make some if inspiration hits.

First thought is that trans women who are attracted to men can rest easy knowing cis men are at the very least interested in trans content.

Second thought is that those numbers for everyone on the masculine side of things are lower than expected. Like way lower.

The unsure/questioning category might be hiding some with either a bluish or pinkish hue. Though I fully understand there's a limit to splitting this one into "questioning fem", "questioning masc", "questioning nbin", "questioning fluid", etc. This is where you bring in the multi-question form where you first establish if someone is sure, then ask them about their identity (or the one they're questioning).

Statistically speaking, this is where you start asking yourself if your data is reliable enough to draw any kind of conclusions from. Which it probably isn't. The only reliable conclusions (that you would likely also see if you did a n=10k study) I could probably draw from these results are these:

• The survey has reached a lot of cis men, which probably means cis men are more interested in trans content in general than one might think.
• Anything feminine outnumbers anything masculine, at least for this platform.

Bonus thought: I love that strawpoll actually takes data visualization seriously and presents both a properly formatted pie chart and a bar graph. For anyone wondering: A properly formatted pie chart starts at 12 o'clock, is sorted highest to lowest and does not use any fancy 3D effects. Any other visualization relies on labeled percentages to inform the viewer. And if those are absent, you just have to judge which slice is bigger. Visualizing the data the way Strawpoll does here makes absolutely sure no one can misinterpret the results.

Yeah "there are no girls on the internet" kinda thing. Joking aside though, keep in mind that n=370 and sampling from c/Trans probably doesn't give significant results for the fediverse as a whole. Though it is an interesting result.

That's a bug, thanks for reporting. Should be fixed with the next update!

Honestly? Didn't think that far ahead. Could be growing up twice as fast, but you might not want that. Could be learning things, in which case yay, but underwhelming. Could also be job/life experience, learning important lessons early to prevent making stupid mistakes?

It's your NG+, so your call. 😊