Phantome

joined 1 year ago
[–] Phantome@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I honestly wouldn't be surprised if this comes down to Elon having fired the entirety of the Twitter payments team.

 

I adopted a new kitten approximately 4 months ago; Mister Black. He was an older kitten, and has had persistent diarrhea since I brought him home. I don't need advice in this regard - all options are being explored with a vet and I've spent many hours trawling the web for potential solutions. The vet's opinion is that he's all-around healthy, minus the diarrhea.

He's got definite crackhead energy, and receives plenty of play to wear him out to the point of panting. Still, he will occasionally go directly from cuddling to biting or clawing my legs. I'm starting to suspect his original home may have played with him using their hands. I respond with yelps, removing myself from the room or re-directing to a toy, but it doesn't have any lasting effect.

I already had another cat, Mister White, who's frankly spoiled me with his good manners and gentle spirit. I've had him since he was a tiny kitten just ready to leave mama, and he's a year older than Black. The two of them can hang out supervised, but White distrusts Black after he's tried to roughhouse one too many times. They were introduced slowly with scent swapping. Their playstyles are completely different, so I haven't managed to find a way to play with them together (Black enjoys adrenaline and muscle play, White enjoys stalking and chases with no contact). They can eat together just fine, although Black has to be actively discouraged from eating White's food.

Black is being castrated next month, which I'm hoping will help alleviate some of his issues (It's taken this long due to waiting for his medical issues to resolve). But I'm concerned that it might not - in which case, where do I go from here?

tl;dr: kitten is Satan and old cat is Jesus, what do?

ETA: It's worth adding that I have 18 years of experience with cat ownership with multiple different cats, and I haven't experienced anything like this before.

[–] Phantome@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I guess because it's seen as hitting a developmental milestone. Still creepy, though. I'm fortunate in that literally none of my family would ever pry about partners nor kids.

[–] Phantome@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's a fair point. I will admit it comes across a little nitpicky, which is something to be wary of if you're building bridges with someone new to allyship. This is the point where some people will dig their heels in due to embarrassment.

[–] Phantome@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

Thanks! What word would best fit in this context?

ETA: I've just changed it to "gender identity" - seems appropriate to cover the other topics being attacked also.

[–] Phantome@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

I am so upset by how gender identity is now a key political issue, and I'm so fucking sorry to all of you that are directly affected by it. You don't deserve this cruelty.

[–] Phantome@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm probably the odd one out, but I really liked browsing r/all to get an idea of which topics were causing a stir in communities I don't personally frequent. I'd love to see enough growth to allow that to happen here.

[–] Phantome@beehaw.org 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

It's great to hear from the mod team. I understand Beehaw as being a place that values respect, trust and discussion in good faith. I'd sum it up as "good vibes". I made note of a comment somewhere on here that I gauged as primarily intending to rile up OP (effectively "what is the point of this post"). Not a horrendous comment by any means, but I'd classify it as being "not nice".

Using Beehaw instead of other instances comes at the cost of missing out on places like lemmy.world, although they can certainly be used in parallel. In my view, the gain of being here is respectful conversation. I accept that some emotional volatility is to be expected when politics or the like are being discussed. Are users ever given a gentle nudge to "be(e) a little bit nicer next time"?

[–] Phantome@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

Thanks for the transparency. There's a big appetite for this sort of platform, so I hope you're able to lean on other volunteers to avoid overloading yourselves.

[–] Phantome@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Thank you for your hard work, and thanks to the donators for making this possible!

Apologies if this has been asked elsewhere, I haven't seen it: How are the core team compensated for their work on the platform? I appreciate that it's a passion project, but I'm sure y'all have bills to pay.