The word lesbian isn't going to solve the ambiguity problem either way, because there are thousands of genders that don't have a special word for gayness. I'm biromantic, but homosexual. I'm romantically attracted to a broad range of genders similar to My own, but I'm only sexually attracted to genders that are very very similar, and that doesn't include women. Making "gay" a term only for men would erase people like Me, and thousands of other nonbinary genders.
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Yeah, I always hated the word sapphic as well. Seems like people just reinventing the word lesbian all over again for exactly the same reasons, thinking it'll end the exclusionism to let the exclusionists take the more common word without a fight.
I think maybe the correct strategy is to go scorched earth. The exclusionists can have the word lesbian, but now lesbian means transphobe. Let them have it after poisoning it. Because I used to think we had to fight them to keep the word meaning something good, but I was just struck with the futility of such an exercise when I realised it never did much good in the first place.
I'm gay. My femininity doesn't make that something special, doesn't set it apart from any other form of gayness. Gay is gay. As much as 20th century misogynists would have refused to believe that and forced the lesbian label on Me because "gIrLs CaN't ReAlLy Be GaY"
https://medium.com/@viridiangrail/why-reactionaries-hate-pride-and-narcissists-938d39261f13
Why reactionaries hate pride (the month, and the sin)
https://medium.com/@viridiangrail/a-soulist-manifesto-4d0456dcb75a
Here's an essay on why reality should be destroyed
Australia is a good place to be trans. I'd be happy to elaborate, but please use My preferred pronouns.
Good point, but I have heard from many people who have Jesus tulpas and can confirm His pronouns. https://medium.com/@viridiangrail/the-memetic-proof-for-the-existence-of-gods-e5d103234fc7
I really like complaining about the fact that misogynistic rape culture degrades men by reducing them to monsters, because it makes it clear that feminism helps everyone. It's really hard for an antifeminist to argue against that point without admitting that male privilege is a pyrrhic trophy, and doesn't really help anyone but the worst of men.
This fact is, by the way, why TERFs and misogynists get along so well. They may claim to have different priorities, but they have no factual dispute on the belief that males are all raping, womanising monsters. TERFs don't even have an interest in rehabilitating male sexual abusers, because they are trapped in patriarchal realism - the belief that the conditions of patriarchy are immutable reality. As such, they are perfectly capable of getting along and cooperating with misogynist, fascist, violent, abusive men.
The TERF views men as wild and dangerous animals, much like a bull. Bulls are necessary for breeding cows, and there's no point getting angry at them for their nature. A TERF sees men the same way, and complains only when a so-called "bull" is kept in the pen with the cows. It's dehumanising and sexist even beyond the pseudoscientific transphobia.
The respect actual intersectional feminists have for male agency and consent demonstrates a simple truth: one of us is liberated when all of us are liberated. Reproducing the cultural myths of patriarchy can only turn us into misogynists, even if we think those myths only harm men. Everything's corrected. A better world has to be built simultaneously at all levels. Demonstrating that fact is our best weapon against fascists like Andrew Tate, who claim to empower men through patriarchy. It's a lie.
Went ahead and added this comment to the original article. Thanks for the praise, sometimes it inspires Me to write even more.
If Narcissus had been a woman and Echo a man, then we would correctly analyse the story as a misogynistic exercise in heteropatriarchal norms. Modern readers are only able to empathize with the Hellenic view that Narcissus owed other people love, because the heteropatriarchy erases asexual men and maintains that all men are naturally creatures of sexual desire. This is not only aphobic, it contributes to misogynistic rape culture and it degrades men by reducing them to the social role of sexual monster. A role some men take seriously, and to the extent of normalising sexual violence against women.
In making space for men to exist without the pressure to romantically or sexually perform for (or violently against) others, we see that Narcissus is rightfully entitled to his own feelings. Echo is guilty of romantic assault, seeking to make him hers, according to a fantasy she developed in her head while stalking him without his knowledge. Echo fails to respect his right to consent in her heart. And so does the nameless suitor who prays to Nemesis for the act of divine intervention that lead to his death.
Narcissus does not owe his allosexual suitors a polite rejection. From the content of his life, we see that he was constantly sexually harassed, and indeed sometimes violently so. And he was 16, for Dionysus' sake! He was just a kid! Some boys haven't even hit puberty yet at that age. And given the Hellenic idealization of the beauty of male youth, I daresay Narcissus may have been one of those boys. And no 16 year old, regardless of bodily maturity, deserves to be subjected to such sexual harassment. No adult does either, but it's particularly disgusting in the case of a boy like Narcissus.
He pinned a comment on the video that the word is wrong and promised to edit the video to remove or blur it! I took My article down.
They're also misgendering Me. And they say they read My bio, so at that point you have to believe it's intentional, right? Hm, someone who misgenders Me and attacks Me for My mental health, who refuses to behave civilly and instead posts one sentence inflammatory responses, all in defence of the armed forces. I think we may be dealing with a nazi.
Back in the 20th century, people used the word lesbian to refer to gay and/or bisexual women. Nobody said the word lesbian as if it didn't include bisexuals, except for the many people who didn't believe in bisexuals at all. This exclusion of bi women while acknowledging they exist is a newfangled trend, and it doesn't make any sense.