EsheLynn

I'm quite ignorant on the matter, but what little I've been able to find online about vaginoplasty, don't you have to dilate like, twice a week, at least? I'm no doctor, but sounds like you may have pulled/tore something?

Might be good to just go to urgent care for them to take a look? Wouldn't they at least shrug, go "IDK, pulled muscle?" and give you muscle relaxants if that's what it is? Or to a gynecologist? Someone should probably take a look up in there or something.

I hope you find a medical professional that's actually professional, soon. Good luck.

Why is that the metric you use, and not the policies they have? Just because plack people are too smart to live in the frigid north doesn't mean the South is a great place to live

I wish you the best of luck. I hope you find the ways to express yourself without being ostricized by your family and community. If you need support, we are here

I'm sorry it went as you expected.

My son came to me last night, saying he thinks he hates both my mother, and his. I told him, if he doesn't want to hate them, he should talk to them, and tell them what they are doing to hurt him.

If they want to work with him, great.

If they don't, well... Cancers get cut out of the body, ya?

We probably both know what talking is going to accomplish, though. Good luck. I hope, other than that, things are going at least okay for you?

Good luck. Idk what to tell you, what advice to give. Everyone's story is different, with different ups and downs. Just... not to be a Debbie downer, but maybe temper your expectations? You've read my ups and downs, I'm sure. Hope for the best, expect the worst, ya know? I send love, hugs, and support from the other side of the internet.

Would you and your partner care to elucidate upon those pros and cons? It's kinda why I asked, and with y'all being on both sides of the fence, it would give some really good perspectives and unique workarounds you have found with the roadblocks with both of your care.

Random strangers treat me as just another person, so that's pretty nice. No, but actually. I always have such anxiety about going out, and forget I live in one of the most LGBT+ positive places in the country. I have so much internalized crap from growing up down south in Baptist churches.

Girl, you look a helluva lot more passing than I do. I had a realization about myself though. Covering my shaved arms and legs made me see him in the mirror. I think it's putting the illusion in my head about how hairy I am, or something. Idk, a cute unicorn onesie just gave me dysphoria cuz my arms were covered. I'm no psychiatrist.

Maybe try changing up your wardrobe. Instead of trying to pass as your trans goals, or something like that, try just something as simple as tank tops and leggings. It's working for me right now. And maybe stop looking at mirrors and selfies. I need to cut back too, and just listen to my kids.

You look sad, but you do look feminine. Taking care of yourself will go a long way towards body image. The only clothes I have right now are handmedowns from my ex before she left, and from my middle daughter. I'm no hair care expert, by any means, but I do know enough to know frizzy hair takes some extra work to maintain. Researching a proper hair care routine might be a good way to start feeling better about yourself.

I would also recommend a routine in your life, in general. It can really help stabilize what's going on in your head and help getting into a good headspace.

Instead of focusing on the negative, focus on the positive. You are very pretty. You just need to give yourself a chance to shine.

I know the pun here, but my mind just went to a crass, horrible mermaid that just casually drops slurs.

I'm not sure which closet you're in, honey, but you need to come out You got so much angst, darling.

I've been out for a week-ish. I chose it a few days ago. Again, I'm self-aware enough to know to give it some time, I guess I was just wondering if it goes away.