Well you have to look to a source to buy Estrogen and blockers grey-market, can be hard since it's... well it's a grey area. There's more to it than that but that's the hard part.
Blazingtransfem98
joined 2 weeks ago
Pirated it (did DIY HRT)
Same, it's really helpful especially because I'm trans and those type of people can be anything from unpleasant to downright dangerous. I was actually assaulted by one of those right-wing assholes because a little girl bumped into me while I was walking, they then yelled "Groomer!" And ended up punching me really hard in the face and kicked me in the stomach, asshole literally broke my nose.
I've been trying for years, and while it does sound different than before I know it will probably never pass. Many people have said it does to be nice, and while I appreciate them trying to make me feel better, passing or not passing is a serious problem for me. I did use voice test apps, and sent samples of my "fem voice" to voice training communities without telling them my gender first and they said it sounded masculine. Plus I can't do the different voice too long before I get tired but if I don't even pass with it, what's the point?
It was actually estrogen, but yeah basically.
Yeah, it can be scary. That's why it's good to have safe spaces where you can be yourself and talk about these things. I sent you some links to communities that might be helpful, best part is, they're right here on lemmy.
I really hope at some point you get to a point where you can feel comfortable expressing yourself in ways that match who you are. I'll admit it does take some hard work, but the rewards are often worth it, they come in the form of self-acceptance and being happy with who you are.
would be a 6โ3 trans woman with shoulders like an NFL linebacker, and likely in my mid to late 40s at best.
I know many people who felt that same way and they still pass wonderfully, yes it does take hard work and does take time. But it's nowhere near as hopeless as it seems.
My family is never going to disown me, mind, I could burn down an orphanage on Christmas Eve and dance in the ashes and my mom would be livid, but that lady would love me and Iโd be still welcome at dinner.
I'm glad to hear that your family is accepting. That's more than I can say for my family. I haven't talked to them in almost 7 years. They wanted nothing to do with me when I came out as trans, and were especially disgusted by the idea of me being on HRT. It's nice to hear that your family will still accept you even if you choose to make changes.
Iโm never going to feel comfortable in my own skin, so I figure I might as well be uncomfortable and still enjoy the benefits and privilege of cis white guy status. Do I hate my body? Yes. Do I wish I could change in fundamental ways that go far beyond simple weight loss or whatever? God yes. Do I realistically have the resources to make that happen and reach a point where I think I could like my body? No.
I used to feel a very similar way before my egg broke. I thought I could just push it down and live life as a normal cis boy. I couldn't. The dysphoria eventually becomes unbearable. It can feel overwelming and hard to take the first steps, hard to make the first changes. I recommend taking things slow and starting with little things. Maybe you might not be ready for HRT but maybe try out some little social things that might make you happy, like makeup or nail polish, just something that feels gender affirming to you. You could even do these things in private. Just little things that can be first steps then take it slowly from there.
Oh God. Iโve never actually admitted any of this before, and Iโm a little scared shitless right now. I seriously may delete this.
It's okay if you want to talk to me about it more privately I can do it in DMs . If you want to reach out to others in the community here are some good communities that can help:
Discussion:
- !mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
- !trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
- !nonbinary@lemmy.blahaj.zone
- !asktransgender@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Memes:
- !egg_irl@lemmy.blahaj.zone
- !traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@lemmy.ca
- !transmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone
- !196@lemmy.blahaj.zone
If you want to speak in a more private place I'd recommend joining the Blahaj.zone group on Matrix, instructions on how to join that here: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/15256176
Don't worry, I'm happy to listen to it if it can help out a fellow transfem sister.
I tried and no matter how hard I try my voice doesn't pass as fem. Some people say it does trying to be nice but when I showed samples to some voice training communities without telling them my gender, just asking if it sounds masc or fem they confirmed my suspicions, voice training apps also confirm my voice is still well within the masc range. It's tiring to keep trying and if my voice doesn't pass unless people are being nice I don't see the point, still makes me feel bad though ๐ญ
I guess that makes sense, not everyone is ready to face themselves at the present time. Though I know from being a stubborn egg growing up, it does eventually weigh on you. That's why it's a good idea to explore sooner. The most important thing is being able to live with yourself and be happy with yourself and your body, I'd suggest revisiting the idea in the future every now and again, eventually one day you might be ready, it can be scary and hard but it can also be rewarding.
I'm mostly okay now, but I wish my voice was more fem. It's very deep and that sucks. I know I'll need voice surgery, voice training hasn't helped โน๏ธ
Bottom surgery done the correct way >>> penis cut off.
(I wish they'd let me get it ๐ญ, well at least mine is much smaller than it was before I started estrogen)