Australis13

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[–] Australis13@fedia.io 62 points 1 month ago

This is definitely not satire.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 45 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Right.... cue follow-up posts when the city fines them for operating a business without a licence.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 3 points 2 months ago

The best case is when I am (1) well-rested, (2) not hungry or thirsty and (3) not already agitated/close to being overwhelmed going into it. Socialising definitely drains me, though, and I have gotten better at recognising when I need a break before it becomes critical. That way I can politely excuse myself (if it's a social function, usually I have a plan in advance to go outside or away from people for a bit to recover).

Unfortunately it's just reality that some people are energised by that type of conversation or social interaction, whilst for others it is exhausting. Energy management is the key thing for those of us who find it draining. Interoception is sometimes impeded for individuals on the spectrum, so if it's hard to identify or keep track of how are you going (and hence whether it is time to politely exit the conversation), there are exercises one can find online to help improve interoception.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 17 points 2 months ago (2 children)

It takes practice, but a good approach is not to go beyond a few sentences on a topic at a time. Give them a chance to change the direction of the conversation (which will happen if they are not interested) or ask follow-up questions (typically indicates that they are interested, although sometimes it may just be that they are being polite, in which case you'll usually only get one or two before the other person moves on to something else). As one of the other comments says, it's a dialogue, not a monologue - most of the time the other person isn't engaging to get information from you but to connect with you (and yeah, that can be a really nebulous concept at times!). It's really easy to infodump but most people don't have the context or depth of knowledge to follow a deep dive on a subject.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Just.... why?

This doesn't meet many of a cat's needs and the kid is going to outgrow it so quickly it's pointless.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 21 points 2 months ago

Keep them apart for a week or so if you can to let any incubating infections show up. I recently had an upsetting experience with a family of stray kittens and their mother that my wife and I rescued, only to find out that they had feline parvovirus and had to be euthanised (whilst the kittens seemed fine when we caught them, the prognosis for kittens with parvo is horrendous; even the mother only had a 50/50 chance of survival). We kept them separate from our cats (and they are vaccinated anyway), but we still had to bleach the bathroom almost to oblivion to kill any trace of parvo. It was just a horrible situation.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 19 points 2 months ago

Autism is not a deal-breaker. My spouse has ADHD and I have ASD. Granted, each of our neurotypes causes the other some frustration, but both are also factors in why we were attracted to each other in the first place.

Neurodivergent individuals often select for each other in partners and there are a lot of similar patterns in my extended family (to use your phrasing, they're all a bit "off"!). None of the relationship failures have been as a result of neurotype and most are still married, with the failures due to the same problems that NT couples deal with - poor communication, emotional immaturity, refusal to learn and grow, etc.

The key thing is to be yourself. If she likes you, you want her to like you for you, not the facade that so many of us have to wear to survive in the NT world.

And if she ghosts you, that's not a failure on your part. It says more about her than you - you took the risk and put yourself out there. If she doesn't show, perhaps she is insecure and afraid of telling you she's changed her mind, or perhaps something happened to prevent her from being there (since you mention films, this is a common trope too). Just be kind to yourself.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 187 points 2 months ago (17 children)

This is one case where I think Windows is appropriately designed for its target audience.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 4 points 2 months ago

Hell no. Do not give machines the ability to lie. We already have enough trouble with people using technology to deceive without it choosing to be deceptive on its own.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 27 points 2 months ago

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[–] Australis13@fedia.io 2 points 2 months ago

Faction Paradox was an interesting concept. Be aware that some of the Eighth Doctor BBC books are a real slog to get through (Interference comes to mind - there just isn't enough plot for it to be two books). The main thing I didn't like about the wilderness years books (Virgin & BBC) was that they were distinctly more adult than the show, which I found jarring.

I do wonder what we would have gotten had Moffat left with Smith as he originally wanted. From what I heard, it sounded like he was stuck in the same situation JNT was in the mid 80s - if he wanted the show to continue, he had to run it. Unfortunately in both cases this corresponded to a decline in the show's quality (Colin Baker really shines in his Big Finish audios, but a lot of his TV episodes are terrible due to the writing; Sylvester McCoy fared slightly better, but still had stories like "The Happiness Patrol").

I haven't actually seen any of the Whittaker episodes apart from part of "The Power of the Doctor" (which my wife watched in its entirety and thought it came across as bad fanfic), but after I heard about the whole Timeless Child arc (which apparently Chibnall came up with as a kid watching the Seventh Doctor), I was not impressed. It felt like there was no respect for the show or its continuity. The Whittaker era might have been okay by itself, but as the part of the larger universe, it really grates on me.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 6 points 2 months ago

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