Yesterday I was telling a transfem acquaintance about a bike camping trip I'm taking soon with a cis m buddy and she was mortified. She was convinced that he would assault me the first chance he got. "How will you pee without risking him attacking you?!" I explained that my buddy knows I'm a transguy and he's good people, but she was convinced that this is a horrible idea and that I'm risking my life by taking this trip. It was strange.
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That's honestly sad she would think that, even after he was vouched for.
I was at a summer camp a while ago and there was this pre-transition trans man who was also there. Eventually as the camp progressed and everyone got to know each other better, I told some of the queer people there I was trans so they could relate to me better.
This person, I kid you not, said "Ha, I knew no one from cowboycrustation's state would have a name like cowboycrustation's name!"
I was like...wtf. My name irl isn't one of those names like fern or star that aren't common among cis people. My name is a somewhat common men's name. I literally have a cousin with the same name.
I might be able to understand/relate to that better if you share what the name is, but of course, no pressure, as it's personal information.
had a trans girl get offended when i said to her that i preferred spending time around her and other trans people, apparently she didnt consider herself trans or like to be refered to as a trans woman. idk, it felt kind of alienating like she was passing now and so didnt want to be associated with other trans people anymore like i was beneath her or something.
What internalized transphobia does to a gal
(sorry if I shouldn’t be replying on this post just let me know if so - straight cis man)
My trans sister has expressed similar feelings. I’ve tried encouraging her to find some people she could befriend in the community while she’s on her transition journey. She says she doesn’t want to be part of the community, and once she’s fully passing in her eyes (I personally think she very much is already, and keep telling her that) that she wants to just live as a woman with nobody else ever knowing she’s trans. It’s obviously her choice, but I can’t help but constantly wish I could do more for her than just be supportive and love her for who she is.
I've had people from a trans community on Reddit call me transphobic for posting a meme given to me by my trans sister which she got from her trans support group friends.
Guess that whole group of trans people are also transphobic 🤷🏻♂️
I wanna see it