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I asked if people chose iPhone for the blue bubbles elsewhere a couple days ago, and while there was some good discourse on that post, the blue bubbles definitely also came up as a reason.

In my experience, when people find out my texts are green, they oftentimes would rather switch to a different platform altogether like Instagram or just not text at all.

Is this actually a deal-breaker in friendships out there?

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[–] shoomba@lemmy.sdf.org 379 points 1 year ago (5 children)

If they don’t want to text you because you don’t have an iPhone they’re not friends you want to have.

[–] AnonymousLlama@kbin.social 67 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Seen this sentiment that green bubbles = bad a few times online but never it's never come up for me. I assume this is a teen - early adult specific issue where the idea is mostly to be part of the group

[–] deweydecibel@lemmy.world 75 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (11 children)

It's been happening in high schools, to the point teens are bullied and pushed out of peer groups if they have Androids. It's frankly disgusting that apple willingly creates this division to profit off teenagers bullying each other, and they don't get called out for it enough.

But in the larger picture, it's definitely going to be more common among the young, because iPhones themselves are ubiquitous among the younger. It's something the tech space is slowly starting realize: Apple has almost total market dominance among the rising demographic, and this has led to increasing tech illiteracy due to the way Apple designs its software, and inability/refusal to learn anything else. That is a huge problem for the tech industry when the only thing they can do to find customers is dumb their software down to appeal to people that don't know how to use anything other than iOS

[–] ABCDE@lemmy.world 40 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Perhaps in the US but it's not so pronounced elsewhere. I think I only know one person with an iPhone.

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[–] eee@lemm.ee 44 points 1 year ago (2 children)

If anybody wants to judge me based on the brand of electronics I use, my favorite band or the brand of clothes I wear, I have no interest in interacting with them lol. This whole consumerist worship-culture is just toxic.

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[–] Prethoryn@lemmy.world 30 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I am an Android user but this comment should be taken very lightly. As this is not the cause the truth is that Apple is at fault here for still using SMS as the default messaging protocol. However, with that being said, SMS breaks messages on iPhone and the devices have been geared towards iPhone users in away that makes it seem like Android is the issue with image quality and texting. The marketing is excellent on Apple's end towards the competition and it is working.

However, that doesn't mean iPhone isn't the problem. I have a sibling who got bullied for having an iPhone. Apple's answer to these problems is just, "get an iPhone." This is equivalent to, "can't figure it out? Just Google it." The problem with this mentality is it gives more power to monopolizing platforms. Apple is a growing giant and if they had their way you would just have an iPhone and if Apple has expressed anything in the past 8 years it's that they aren't exactly the innovators with mobile devices anymore. To me the problem is on an iPhone nothing would change.

A little irrelevant rant but my point is that the average iPhone consumer has been given a marketing ploy so it is a deal breaker because they think it is an issue and in all fairness it is one but only Google is trying to fix. Issue is that Google should have tried to fix it years ago. You can't blame iPhone users for wanting to use other platforms to message you if your message is compressed heavily by Apple's shitty and stupid fucking decision to keep using SMS to control the market. The care about user experience is overshadowed by the desire to use that as a means to make money off of a user that doesn't understand messaging protocols. Fuck Apple.

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[–] habanhero@lemmy.world 141 points 1 year ago

Yes, but it's a feature, not a bug.

It's a super low investment and quick way to identify people you should avoid.

[–] Lazylazycat@lemmy.world 131 points 1 year ago (9 children)

I think this must be a cultural thing because no one in the UK sends SMS messages. Everyone just uses WhatsApp or signal or telegram. I'm android and have literally never had anyone mention the colour of my bubble. I didn't know this was a thing!

[–] magic_lobster_party@kbin.social 92 points 1 year ago (8 children)

I think it’s mostly an US thing. The rest of the world has moved away from SMS.

[–] deweydecibel@lemmy.world 30 points 1 year ago (8 children)

It's mostly a US thing because Android is the standard pretty much everywhere except the US.

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[–] Th4tGuyII@kbin.social 23 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Yeah, this is definitely a US-centric thing. Almost nobody I know (UK) uses SMS as their default, it's usually the last resort before just ringing the person.

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[–] Switorik@lemmy.fmhy.ml 88 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I don't understand the apple cult. I've tried their phones. I prefer Android phones.

I have heard of some people who think non apple users are subpar, but those are the ones you want to avoid.

[–] saltesc@lemmy.world 44 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I worked for Apple for about 4 years and few people had Apple devices, despite the discount. I was supplied an iMac and MacBook Pro, but also a Windows PC and notebook that most work was done on because of software support. Most employees were obviously into their tech, so Android was by far the most popular for mobile devices. I remember a guy with a Windows phone.

No one judged, though. Having obviously used a lot of gadgets extensively, people understood that people land on what they like the most and there's no right or wrong with personal opinion.

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[–] figaro@lemdro.id 77 points 1 year ago (6 children)

If you live anywhere outside of the US, the question is irrelevant, because everyone uses whatsapp etc.

Within the US, if you are over the age of 30, it probably doesn't matter.

if you are under the age of 30 AND in the US, I mean, if someone does judge you for it, you at least have a great way to filter shitty people out of your life lol.

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[–] IverCoder@lemmy.world 73 points 1 year ago (2 children)

If your "friends" make so much fuss over text bubbles, probably the best course of action is to find better friends.

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[–] FxtrtTngoWhisky@lemmy.world 73 points 1 year ago (8 children)

If you think you're better than me because you have an iPhone and I run an Android, I don't want to talk to you anyway.

People are so fucking petty and elitist over the dumbest fucking things.

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[–] kadu@lemmy.world 72 points 1 year ago (18 children)

In some social circles, yes. Teenagers tend to cling into anything that could potentially be interpreted as a social status symbol or group identity - in the US, for some bizarre reason, people still use the default messaging app and SMS so iMessage and it's "green vs blue bubble" design immediately fills this space. This can also show up in very shallow dating scenes, like someone using Tinder and just looking for a random hook up with a nice dinner beforehand - they could see the iPhone as a sign of wealth and available money to spend.

But for most adults, living normal lives... I don't think so. At least, never have been an issue with any of my friends, family members, academic peers, coworkers...

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[–] cley_faye@lemmy.world 57 points 1 year ago (2 children)

You can have a preference, even a strong one. You can also discuss it with people. But shutting people out because of their phone? That's a major personality red flag anyway.

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[–] angrymouse@lemmy.world 56 points 1 year ago

Let me guess, you are from the United States? Every time I heard about this is only from the US, never see anyone outside giving a single fuck about that.
Also, do you really wanna be friend with someone that choose friendship by the phone their friend uses? Wtf

[–] A_Random_Idiot@lemmy.world 54 points 1 year ago

Its only a dealbreaker if you are dealing with someone who is exceedingly vapid and worthless as a human being, and you should be grateful for it, because it lets you know real quick not to waste another ounce of effort on their dumb asses.

[–] bighi@lemmy.world 45 points 1 year ago (11 children)

This is so American...

"Let me send an SMS, while I ride my horse to go to my bank and do other things that people used to do in 1870."

"Oh, their SMS color is different! I dislike people with a different color than me."

[–] Llewellyn@lemmy.ml 31 points 1 year ago

I dislike people with a different color than me.
Well..

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[–] OrangeCorvus@lemmy.world 45 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Are you 14? In that case maybe.

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[–] trk@aussie.zone 43 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

I love the blue bubble thing being a .... thing.

It makes identifying people who are a waste of time really easy. Making a big deal out of the colour of a text message bubble? Smell ya later loser, you ain't worth investing any time in.

Move on lads. If someone's shallow enough to care about the brand of phone you use they can go sniff farts for all I care. I ain't following them in their campaign to give the worlds richest company more money. It reminds me of that fundraiser to make one of those reality TV dickheads a billionaire by donating them cash. Like how does transferring some of your small amount of wealth to their giant pool of wealth somehow boost your own... anything?? Probably the second stupidest thing I've ever heard.

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[–] neobunch@lemmy.world 41 points 1 year ago (12 children)

It's bewildering to me how this continues to be an issue only in the US, the rest of the world figured out this problem around 2010, and I'm not kidding. It's like you guys are still arguing about Beta vs VHS in 2023

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[–] JackBinimbul@lemmy.world 41 points 1 year ago (8 children)

I'm an Android user and I have no idea what any of this means.

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[–] LegionElite@lemmy.world 39 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I like android better because it has way less limitations than apple. It also seems more flexible as far as apps and customization is concerned.

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[–] Enasni@lemmy.world 38 points 1 year ago (1 children)

iPhone user here, no. I don’t care what other people use and I really find the Android vs iPhone debate both done-to-death and incredibly boring. Most often, from both sides, it’s just people (kids most likely) stroking their own egos in an attempt to argue with someone and feel superior.

I use an android tablet currently for art. I’m very familiar with android and even some degree of programming knowledge. It’s great. My iPhone is just as good in that it does what I need it to do and I understand other people don’t feel the same, which is absolutely fine.

Fuck blue bubbles lmao that’s some cult shit tbh.

Oh also, Memmy is amazing.

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[–] Zetta@mander.xyz 37 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Apple is deliberately not supporting the global standard of RCS for exactly thai reason. They want green bubbles to stay.

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[–] Froody@lemmy.world 36 points 1 year ago (6 children)

People that buy Apple are some of the most superficial beings on this planet.

Who gives a fuck about text bubbles?

Find friends that aren't so shallow.

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[–] VaidenKelsier@lemmy.world 35 points 1 year ago

If someone's gonna cut out a person out of their lives because of the choice of their phone, you're better off without that person in your life.

[–] Sebastrion@lemmy.fmhy.ml 34 points 1 year ago

I never had a IPhone but if they don't Text you because you don't use a IPhone... That sounds crazy.

[–] jmanes@lemmy.world 34 points 1 year ago

For a long while last year, I had an iPhone and my fiancé had a Pixel. It did not matter whatsoever in regards to the relationship. We used Telegram (still do).

If phone choice dictates someone's choice in partner it is probably safe to categorize them as "terminally online." Stay away from those people.

[–] MazonnaCara89@lemmy.ml 33 points 1 year ago (4 children)
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[–] gornius@lemmy.world 32 points 1 year ago (6 children)

I don't even hate Apple that much, but what I hate is that every time I find out somebody I know uses Apple product I say to myself in quiet "Oh gosh...", because very often the reason they use Apple whatever is to feel better than somebody.

And I hate people like these. Not every Apple enjoyer is like that, and there are legitimate reasons to go Apple, like wanting that ecosystem, good camera,, using something that just works or go with Apple Silicon revolution. And no, Apple is not really private.

But in most cases their reasons are either a fucking IM bubbles (because I don't want to spend 5 seconds to install an app that works anywhere) or it just "doesn't lag" (which any phone over $200 doesn't) which is obviously a fucking bullshit to cover the actual answer which is "I wanted to feel better by having shit that every fancy person uses".

But the funniest people are the ones trying to explain these "amazing features" to me, totally ignoring the points that IM sucks on Android because Apple pushes their own standard and refuses to use open ones, that no sideloading and Apple controlling whole app ecosystem is the best thing ever and that Android is slow, because it [put any argument Apple fanboy without the basic OS concepts understanding would make] and not because you used $100 phone and switched to a motherfucking $600 phone. Wow, who would've thought?

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[–] Encryption@feddit.ch 30 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (13 children)

Wait, so people decide on a phone based of OS because of blue or green chat message colors? This is the first time I'm hearing this, is this something more of a USA thing or does this apply to other ocuntries as well?

Buying a phone based on chat bubble color seems something that occurs in a toxic society, where you are judged based on phone model. And why do they then change to an other platform to write you?

I never had a discussion about Andriod or IPhone based on this parameter, it was more about UI, services and design of the phone. To be fair we all use third party messengers like Signal or Threema.

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[–] SloppyPuppy@lemmy.world 30 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

so the whole world uses mostly whatsapp or some other messaging app. nobody not in the US gives a damn about the color of the bubble or even knows whats the device on the other side. we all use whatsapp its much better in any way possible (except that it belongs to facebook, that is bad... anyway we were there before it belonged to facebook, so.....)

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[–] obinice@lemmy.world 30 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I don't know what you mean by blue or green bubbles (I use Android, Chomp for SMS, Discord to IM, WhatsApp for the stragglers) but I've never met anybody so shallow that they'd give up a friendship over what brand of phone you use. That's the kinda thing a very childish 13 year old might do.

I think you might need to re-evaluate who you think your friends are, if they'd rather cut off contact with you than receive a slightly different looking text message. That's incredibly, INCREDIBLY weird.

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[–] Khorgor666@feddit.de 30 points 1 year ago (8 children)

Are you from the US? In Germany we use WhatsApp Threema or Telegram for messaging, nobody cares about some bubble colour.

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[–] UnicornKitty@lemmy.world 29 points 1 year ago (6 children)

My best friend has an iPhone. I'm a Samsung girl. Any time her phone doesn't let her do something I poke fun at the iPhone, but in reality they are just different versions of the same thing. The only real reason I have to complain is the price tag. I'm not paying double for an item that does the same thing as the cheaper version. That's just stupid financially. It's not a better product because it costs more. I can live without whatever it offers that android doesn't.

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[–] Axe_Oh_Lot_Tell@lemm.ee 28 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If they do just move on. It's nice of them to display their red flags like that

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[–] mintiefresh@lemmy.ca 27 points 1 year ago

It is odd that someone would choose a friendship because of a phone.

Honestly, it's kind of a nice filter to have an Android then, if that's the case.

[–] DRUMS_@reddthat.com 23 points 1 year ago

This is 100% real for young people. It's sad and stupid. At least they can easily figure out who will be a crappy friend.

[–] stanford@lemm.ee 23 points 1 year ago

In my experience, no, especially outside of the US.

In many places/countries, there are more android than iphone users. This is especially true in developing countries, but also some developed ones too. It's not uncommon for everyone in these areas to use alternative messaging platform like whatsapp, telegram, or line, so there was barely any difference between android and iphone.

So it's barely a deal-breaker, at least, in this scenario.

[–] Donebrach@lemmy.world 23 points 1 year ago (8 children)

Green texts are the worst mostly because (I’m convinced) apple has programmed Messages to intentionally lose them to make group texts with android users a nightmare to deal with, in an attempt at social pressure on android users to get an iPhone.

They are wildly inconsistent in their delivery success. Often times texts will either never go through to some members of the group or go through at random times. Also sent videos are always horribly compressed. Obvious solution would be to use a third party messaging app but but convincing everyone to do that is usually a nonstarter.

What it is though is green texts are just sms messages, which is the original text message protocol that uses cellular infrastructure to deliver the message. Blue texts are sent via the Messages app over the internet so they are likely just more reliable and quick to deliver.

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[–] Gomiyboy@lemm.ee 23 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Only the most superficial of people would use this reason as a method for diminishing or isolating someone.

I would question my relationship with them if this is their outlook.

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