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The Gendering of Holiday Labor (daily.jstor.org)
submitted 11 months ago by spaduf to c/mensliberation@lemmy.ca
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[–] e_t_@kbin.pithyphrase.net 22 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Female friends often tell me that their male partners just aren’t as good at this work as they are––that they do it partly because it would cause more stress to hand over the tasks.

At work, I'm training a new coworker. He's been assigned to create some diagrams that we need for compliance reporting. He hasn't made them the same way I would have. I've been tempted to produce my own diagrams the way I would want them, but I have steeled myself against that impulse. His diagrams are acceptable to the higher-ups and they're not wrong in any respect, they're just not how I would have made them. I need to learn to be OK with that.

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 10 points 11 months ago

That's a serious life skill. Avoiding micromanaging gives you more time, makes the other person feel more empowered, and avoids conflict in your relationship. Props!

[–] noride@lemm.ee 13 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

After reading the article, I came away with the opinion that we should be doing away with all of the pageantry of holiday gatherings, and focus instead on the connections we're tying to maintain.

But that's really the thrust of the article, isn't it? The fact that so many men seem to not care about the appearance and presentation is the problem in their eyes.

E. Edited for clarity.

[–] oshitwaddup@lemmy.antemeridiem.xyz 16 points 11 months ago

I would much rather support women liberating themselves from the pressure of all the pageantry and appearance than having to do all the pageantry and appearance stuff.

that said, some people just like that stuff, and not from external pressure afaict. It's a weird dynamic in a lot of ways