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[–] violetraven@lemmy.blahaj.zone 36 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I would give myself a hug and tell myself it'll all be ok.

[–] bremen15@feddit.de 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Great approach. Check out ifs

[–] violetraven@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] bremen15@feddit.de 4 points 1 year ago

Internal Family System. A therapeutic approach based on system theory approaches child-like inner parts and gives them the affection and love they needed (and still need) when those parts formed.

[–] areyouevenreal@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

I think they are talking about internal family systems. It's a type of therapy.

[–] Aurenkin@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago

Sounds like you went through some difficult times. Really glad things worked out ok for you

[–] Resistentialism@feddit.uk 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I hope you're good, man.

I think I'd be the opposite. I'd be like, "It still sucks, and the loneliness hits harder than ever, fella. But when you're 24, you'll get something that'll change your life."

Just to leave this oit there for the concerned; I'm fine.

[–] violetraven@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I am, but it's a day-by-day affair. I recently found out I have bipolar along with anxiety, but even so, I came out 4 years ago and my life has vastly improved.

[–] Resistentialism@feddit.uk 2 points 1 year ago

Hey, it's better than it always being shit. I'm sorry about the bipolar though. However, hopefully, it's been found out. You can get help more suited for that.

The anxiety is.hinestly such a bitch. And I'm so glad coming out has helped. I wish you all the best.

[–] DmMacniel@feddit.de 12 points 1 year ago

Tell my young self that it isn't a phase and that he should start the therapy to become she immediately!

[–] MataVatnik@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Kill him since I already know it doesn't get much better

[–] Shard@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Is that suicide, murder or murder suicide?

[–] SturgiesYrFase@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 year ago
[–] Catsrules@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Depends if it rips apart universe by making a paradox. I am not sure is destruction of the universe is a criminal charge. But maybe Murder suicide then manslaughter for killing the universe?

[–] Resistentialism@feddit.uk 1 points 1 year ago

I mean, just from a quick duckduckgo, destruction of the universe isn't technically illegal.

Depending on how well you do it, there should be no charges because it'll all be gone.

[–] Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

Imagine the disappointment if you then don't stop existing. You still did a good deed, nobody can take that away from you.

[–] Somewhereunknown7351@kbin.social 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I would do that with a chainsaw

[–] SuckMyWang@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

I’d push myself into a meat grinder

[–] aeternum@kbin.social 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've made a lot of mistakes in my life. This really hits home.

[–] Sureito@feddit.de 7 points 1 year ago

No, it would hit you

[–] Deiskos@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

I would tell my younger self to go to a psychiatrist and get some antidepressants about 2 years earlier than last time.

[–] Kyrgizion@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

I'd use a gun tbh. Gotta make sure.

[–] asteriskeverything@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)
[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

I genuinely don't know if my younger self would have the presence of mind to take me seriously, but I would try to reach them and encourage them to be more empathetic toward things/people that they didn't understand. I was a bit of an asshole as a teenager, heck maybe even in my early 20s, and I wish I could go back with the care I have now.

[–] Gabu@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My expert advice to past me: "Stop trying to do so many different things and focus on getting good at one fucking thing at a time"
I still don't follow that.

[–] PeWu@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

Same. Even tho I'm trying, it's so boring doing one thing, so I'm trying everything...

[–] agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

When you realize that's why your parents were like that

[–] RQG@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Because they time traveled back to slap themselves?

[–] PeWu@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago

I would say, try to find some meaning to life, but it wouldn't be understood by 10yr pos

[–] HubertManne@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

I would have a conversation. Mainly about stocks but also about the cubs.

[–] Churbleyimyam@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

I think some people become parents for this reason. For better or worse...

[–] Wanderer@lemm.ee -5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Would try smash more girls and not be so picky.

Didn't know so many where going to let themselves go so fast after highschool/uni.

18-20 was the peak. Then no diet and exercise really caught up on a lot of girls relying on genetics and youth

[–] ADTJ@feddit.uk 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

So your takeaway from getting older is just misogyny...

[–] Jax@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think what he means to say is his diet and exercise.

[–] Wanderer@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

My diet is maybe slightly better. Less beer for sure. My exercise has gone way down. Was in the gym ever week and playing multiple types of sport through school and uni. Then post uni was in the gym 5 days a week.

But since then I lost weight. Just do a lot of walking and surfing now.

Still even on my reduced exercise regimen I don't know any women in my friendship group that do as much exercise as me.

[–] Wanderer@lemm.ee 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

No. Guys let themselves go also but I'm not interested in fucking them now or when I was 18 so I don't care about their looks.

The older you get the more your options go down.

But from my friendship group the guys have aged a lot better. They all most all stayed the same weight, some lost some muscle mass I know I did. But a lot of the girls got fatter.

It would be interesting to see the amount of exercise the average man does from 18-30 compared to women. I'd bet men do a lot more.

Are you honestly going to say you think women do as much exercise as men? Or that you don't know any girls from school in the "pretty group" that aged horrifically because they no longer have youth and never did any exercise.