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[–] Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 1 points 9 minutes ago

Quite frankly, a big part of managing the stress when looking at the macro-political situation and how that intertwines with the macro-econonics and fucks up the microeconomics of households, is to not dwell on it. Too much doomer content bringing you down? know when to stop consuming and do something else. There's a point where you cannot change it and making yourself depressed thinking about it too much is just going to make your own life shittier.

I also work hard to find the best path to survive, thrive and live my best life. Sometimes that means taking some time to learn the rules of the game that's set up so you don't dive head first into the pitfalls that are setup for those who don't pay attention to the rules. Learn more about the big scary words at play as you sign up for an insurance plan, and what they mean. Learn about interest (both on your debts and your funds) and how interest plays into your finances, how to budget and figure out what you can afford, and how to financially improve upon your previous choices that occurred either due to lack of knowledge or due to making the least bad decision available to you at a given point in time.

But also make sure to find joy and happiness in a bunch of different timescales to both be happier and improving yourself so that no matter how mundane your life is, you have sparks of joy to keep you always looking forwards to something:

  • Small affordable indulgences, be that a yummy food like a small block of aged cheese, or maybe a small lego set or a small game. Whatever makes you happy that you wouldn't normally spend on
  • Take a moment to appreciate something in your environment. I like to take a minute to look at the stars every time I'm outside at night, but also actively take in the trees and patches of woodland and how they're currently reacting to the weather. If you can keep a small plant, just checking in on your little potted plant every day can bring its own joy in caring for your little buddy
  • Find a creative outlet, no matter how much you suck at it, just find something you can make that you enjoy making
  • Pick something fun you can look forwards to at all times that's just around the corner. A club that meets monthly to do a hobby you enjoy does well. I then try to also make sure to find some excuse to get together with friends and spend a little more money than I otherwise would every few months so its extra special and I can really look forward to those get togethers.
  • Start exercising regularly. Your body was made to move, and making sure you're actually using your body and pushing your muscles a bit 3-5 times a week is amazing for both your general health but also your mental health too. Take a walk, ride a bike, make a fool of yourself on a dance floor, struggle to do a pushup/pullup. It doesn't have to be structured, just something to actually move your whole body throughout the week and actually use your muscles

TL;DR STOP DOOMSCROLLING AND GO POKE SOMETHING WITH A STICK...it might even be a little fun

[–] AbsoluteChicagoDog@lemm.ee 3 points 1 hour ago

I don't let them win over my soul. I'll never believe that capitalism is good. I'll never let them that money is more important than people. And if someday enough people believe the same as me that things start to change I'll be there to help make that change happen.

[–] wick@lemm.ee 1 points 1 hour ago

I think about how much worse it would be if I was in another paradigm where even expressing such an opinion would get me punished, jailed, or killed, then go on with my day.

[–] sp3tr4l@lemmy.zip 3 points 4 hours ago

Currently taking a sabbatical from giving a shit about anything.

Got assaulted, seriously injured, car got stolen, lost my job working at a non profit helping the homeless, became homeless, spent a year that way, racked up a whole bunch more injuries.

Managed to qualify for SSDI, got on a bus, rode halfway across the country in horrible agony to find a shithole I can afford to rent, with just the clothes I had on me.

Its been about a year now, doing my own physical therapy, slowly recovering.

Can't afford actual physical therapy, couldn't get to it anyway.

Maybe sometime next year I'll be able to get my glasses replaced.

Maybe if I get to the point I can walk or use my wrist for more than 10 minutes at a time I'll look into some kind of remote work... or just make a video game or something.

...

How do I deal with it?

Just keep living, one day at a time.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 points 5 hours ago

I do what I can when I can. Hopelessness hinders the change I can make

[–] Roldyclark@literature.cafe 1 points 4 hours ago

volunteer, support local, and play music

[–] dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world 7 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

Invest in people.

Barring that: move to somewhere that is better for investing in people.

Doing better with only a focus on money, within a capitalist framework, will absolutely challenge your morals and ethics from time to time. Investing time in people, and community in general, has no such downside. Also, you'll need both to ascend Maslow's Hierarchy and be a well-rounded and healthy person around here. Succeeding in this area will also shift your viewpoint away from purely financial matters, or worse yet, basing your self-worth on your financial value to the market.

[–] 1SimpleTailor@startrek.website 15 points 12 hours ago

I don't want to overstate this, but some liberation can come from within.

Yeah, we all have to play their game, but internalizing the values our sick society places on us is optional. Make peace with the things you alone cannot immediately change. Resist in the small ways you are able, find joy where you can, and do what you can for the people you care about. Free your mind and your ass will follow.

[–] Jakeroxs@sh.itjust.works 5 points 9 hours ago

It's kind of like trying to cope with the reality of death

[–] cheers_queers@lemm.ee 2 points 8 hours ago

i cry a lot and smoke a lot of weed lol

[–] hightrix@lemmy.world 4 points 10 hours ago

Pretty easily.

I live my life and care about the people around me. I ignore things I can’t affect.

The sky is not falling. The ground is right here and things are generally OK for most people.

[–] myusernameis@lemmy.ca 10 points 13 hours ago

So I went through a very dark place a few years back. Anxiety, depression and PTSD led me to the conclusion that "life is hard and always will be and that in the whole of human history we are all insignificant".

But with the help of a great therapist (and some meds) I was able to append "so I might as well have fun".

So I try to find joy wherever I can. So yes to doing things, fight my cynical side, make friends, dress weird, dance, party, be my (weird fun happy) self, allocate zero fucks to the haters and all to love to the people that matter.

I still fight the system where I can, but mostly by trying to make other's lives happier. Let the billionaires be rich miserable assholes, we're too busy dancing slutty to care.

[–] Eww@lemmy.world 1 points 8 hours ago

I try to maximize my time doing things I actually like doing. I don't have control over the rest of the hell hole, but I can try to make my small part of it bearable. Even better if I can share the enjoyment with others so they can escape, if only for a while

[–] FabledAepitaph@lemmy.world 7 points 13 hours ago

Just here trying to create an emotional and practical safe zone for myself, family, and my friends, and fuck the rest of 'em

[–] Acklavidian@lemmy.world 1 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)
  • To be or not to be
  • But that's not the question
  • How to be me
  • If I'm more than a profession
  • Won't leave me be
  • If only to form a question
  • While I try to want to be
  • So I cope with the trope
  • Choke on their smoke
  • And pretend I learned their lesson
  • Wait for a rift in the grift
  • And not drift into depression
  • Hard to try an ignore the lie
  • So they can worship their myth
  • To give their false confession
[–] Lennnny@lemmy.world 9 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Reading history books for greater context. Shit always finds a new flavor of fucked, apparently.

And drinking a boatload.

[–] ivanafterall@lemmy.world 4 points 12 hours ago

This can also backfire. It's frustrating to see history repeating itself so clearly over and over again, while being utterly powerless to really change it.

[–] AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.world 10 points 15 hours ago

Smoke a lot of weed

[–] mjhelto@lemm.ee 9 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I silently quit life. It's not going well.

[–] cheers_queers@lemm.ee 2 points 8 hours ago

can you elaborate on what that means?

[–] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)

Remember that the world used to be filled with feudalistic absolute-monarchist nations where the Emerperor/King always got away with doing immoral shit, and most people who worked for the monarch can fuck up your life with zero repercussions.

Today, at least sometimes the leaders can get punished.

South Korea just Impeached their president. And the president will likely get convicted and removed from office and go to prison, just as with one of the presidents before.

Brazil is now investigating their former President for an attempted coup.

The US isn't there yet, but at least we tried. Eventually, the president will be held accountable, maybe not in 10 years, but eventually we'll evolve out of this shit. The US had slavery, and got rid of it (for the most part). We had Jim Crow and got rid of that. It used to be only white male landowners could vote, and eventually Black Men, then Women, also got the right to vote. Progress happens even if it looks very slow.

Back then there was also no modern medicine, a small flu can kill you. If a family had 2 children in any country that's even slightly developed, both children likely survive. But before modern medicine, you need like 8 children and maybe 2 of them will survive.

Back then there were no entertainment on demand, if you are bored, you are just bored. Now we can just go on Youtube, Netflix or whatever and have a billion things to watch.

Back then, you didn't have a 40 hour work week, you were on a farm and had to constantly work. Any bad weather and crops died you're starving. Or if it post industrial revolution, you could be at a factory with way longer hours and much worse conditions than today.

People think "this is so bad" but it was way worse before.

[–] Pandantic@midwest.social 1 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

?

Did I say something offensive? Sorry if I did.

[–] Dorkyd68@lemmy.world 4 points 14 hours ago

Drugs, lots and lots of tender loving illigeal drugs

[–] Sixtyforce@sh.itjust.works 3 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

I refuse to have children in response to what I see with my own eyes. No thanks to my parents for making me exist.

[–] 4lan@lemmy.world 2 points 12 hours ago

Glad I'm not the only person who resents their parents for making them

[–] bitwolf@sh.itjust.works 15 points 23 hours ago (4 children)

Preparing myself for the world Titor predicted. Small communities.

Learning to homestead as best I can as a renter. Lots of raised beds and planter bags.

I only buy things to support my hobbies. Saving up for land and a prefab home so I can go completely independent.

I don't want to worry if critical food gets expensive again.

[–] CheeseNoodle@lemmy.world 5 points 15 hours ago

Climate change is really fucking that idea up here in Scotland.

Our ecosystem relies on now non-existant snowy winters to reset the pest and fungus population every year, instead we get mild winters and summer that have no actual rain to water plants yet are so humid that everything is permamently damp, pests and fungi ramp up year on year and plants that used to grow fine here (Talking potatoes and even some native trees) are struggling. I'd say a full half of the non-confierous trees near my house have started dying in the last 2 years.

[–] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

SERN will take over the world.

The Organization is on to me now.

El Psy Congroo

[–] bitwolf@sh.itjust.works 2 points 14 hours ago
[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 4 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I would have tried this so hard a long time ago but there is basically 2 things keeping me in the shackles: dentists & hospitals.

How do you deal with that?

[–] y0kai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 15 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 2 points 12 hours ago

With bad teeth? That won't work!

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[–] electric_nan@lemmy.ml 16 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I organize and build relationships in my community. Everyone has something to offer and something they need. It isn't always immediately obvious what those things are, so it's nice to have an existing network when you figure it out. Get together. Have potlucks. Share your skills, knowledge, tips, tricks and resources.

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[–] conditional_soup@lemm.ee 90 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

In EMS, there's a saying: if you drop the baby, pick it up.

Dropping the baby is like the worst thing you can ever do, but for Christ's sake, don't just leave it on the ground, do something about it. I've gotten involved in local government. Local government is great because you can still affect change there, and you can affect change that can snowball into something bigger with other people in other local governments making those changes. I'm on the city's bicycle commission, and I'm working with local organizations like the 'Council for Leadership and Justice' and 'Strong Towns' to try and make the world a better place than I found it. Is it futile? Sure feels like it sometimes, time will tell I guess, but the trying helps me feel better for a few reasons, not least of which because it puts me in contact with others who care enough to try too.

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