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The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en

StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/

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[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/

[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org

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[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I live in Australia, so YMMV, but for me, the things I needed to update were:

  • Government/their services and programs, local and federal
  • Medical things (insurance,, doctors, etc)
  • Banks/Financial Institutions (I don't know how a 401k works, but that probably is included)
  • Insurance
  • Car registration
  • Identity documents
  • Wills, if you have one
  • Company registrations, if you have one

Beyond that legal obligation, there is no one you have to tell if you don't feel comfortable. I took the opportunity of legally changing my name to finally come out in the rest of my life (work and uni), but you don't have to.

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (2 children)

Also fun fact I can tell that Medicare (Australias one) definitely doesn't distinguish between trans and cis women because the week after I changed my name/gender I received a letter telling my I was due to get my cervix checked lol

[–] NoIWontPickAName@kbin.earth 9 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Couldn't find one, must be terminal

[–] NoIWontPickAName@kbin.earth 1 points 3 weeks ago
[–] femtech@midwest.social 1 points 2 weeks ago

Lol, same at my primary, I mean I have had surgery now and my surgeon said to get a yearly spec check. But being asked at an urgent care if I could be pregnant when I had nausea and stomach pain was a trip.

[–] sir_pronoun@lemmy.world 16 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Your local Linux enthusiasts

[–] Leate_Wonceslace@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)
  1. Everyone you want to

  2. If there's a legal obligation to inform someone where you are, everyone like that.

End of list.

[–] Luci@lemmy.ca 6 points 4 weeks ago

Short list, perfect!

[–] sonori@beehaw.org 14 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

Assuming US. Government wise, Get your name and sex on your passport and Social security card updated before Jan 20th. Get both passport book and card when you apply. Updating Social security should also update IRS. Pay for expedited processing, This Must be Done Now!

Offhand I believe you have 90 days to update your drivers license.

Get your birth certificate updated if the state you were born in lets you. Even if it doesn’t, make sure that you have multiple physical copies of it and your social security certificate. Do not keep them all in the same place. Safe Deposit Boxes tend to only cost a few dozen dollars a year, if you cannot afford that mutually exchange your extra copy with your closest trusted friend’s copy.

Bank is also a big one and should match Social security, probably also want to update any credit cards.

Insurance, Health, Auto, Home, etc… Don’t give them a reason to give you the run around.

Work, or at least HR, should also be informed so that they are sending pay to right name and taxes all work out.

Post office may also need to be informed, though I believe offhand they will generally accept passport or drivers licenses as proof of identity.

If you have the misfortune of being in their system, make sure that the Department of Justice has you updated. This should have already come up for the legal name change but state and federal don’t always do a good job communicating and it is your problem when they fuck it up.

So offhand,

Passport

Social security

Drivers license

Birth certificate (if possible)

Bank/credit cards

Insurance

Whoever pays you at work

post office(maybe)

DoJ(if applicable)

As a rule, if it’s important, expensive, or looks official, it should match.

The more things match your real name (congratulations) and not your dead name, the safer you are and the easier your life will be.

[–] Bougie_Birdie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 weeks ago

For changing your sex, I would think you'd need to update your ID and notify your doctor. Driver's license, identification and passport are all things that you might run into issues if they're out of order.

The name change probably requires more action. All of the above plus I'd imagine you might come into issues with banking or billing. If you're a homeowner you might need to update your title, but I'd check with a lawyer

You go, dude!