Sorry to hear.
I see you from time to time on !movies@lemm.ee, hopefully you don't hate people there, we try to keep it nice.
Feel free to join !casualconversation@lemm.ee if you want a more laid-back experience.
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Nah I love the movies community. I was able to talk about the weirdest thing I've seen all year Megalopolis over there. Literally just wrote a comment about it.
Rough day elsewhere on the platform. Rough month really.
But thank you maybe I will check it out!
After I finally get to watch it I'll be over there with my thoughts. I can't wait to see it.
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Thank you for that comment, happy that you like the community
Sure, see you around!
There is indeed a LOT of bitchy pedantry on here. I'm not sure it's worse than other platforms, because this is the only one I've been using for a while now. I block very aggressively and that seems to help.
Sorry you're not having fun on Lemmy, I do get it. For some reason reddit keeps failing upwards and we're not getting the influx of users I was hoping for. I'm still hanging in here but participating less and less.
For some reason reddit keeps failing upwards and we’re not getting the influx of users I was hoping for.
Inertia is directly related to how big their userbase is. And they pretty much killed all the text-based discussion forums.
So I'm not hopeful we'll get another influx that soon. People staying on Reddit will prefer to fix their personal API key every day to use a 2 years old Lemmy or Sync apk rather than try Lemmy.
I'm also starting to think social media plus human nature = inherently bad combo. It's not always bad, but it trends that way over time and at large scales.
Real identity social media is bad because creepy corporations track your every move and people post fake and highly curated profiles.
Anonymous social media is bad because too many people behave like unfiltered belligerent asholes.
People suck. Basically always hoping there is someone beneath them to feel better for treating them worse.
It's probably best to be in a situation where you can still get socked in the mouth for acting like a jerk while people are having a conversation.
Hahaha yeah the whole API key thing was what pushed me to Lemmy.
The first time I got "you have used the maximum amount of posts blah blah blah" I was done with reddit... But then I found out that I'm having a lot less fun.
I have to participate in the big communities and with awful people if I don't want to be alone in an empty community.
Are you familiar with !newcommunities@lemmy.world ?
Also, you being on lemy.lol and its 103 monthly active users means you might miss on some communities as nobody from your instance subscribed to them to bring them to the All feed
Why do I need a computer science degree to navigate this place?
No, I am not familiar. Sigh I just wanted to laugh.
Wait until I show you https://lemmyverse.net/communities
You can use the home icon to set your home instance and open the new communities on it
Honestly Facebook is even better just cause it's people putting on the clown makeup to get a ride from you. Apparently they pay pretty well for those stupid community posts if you get enough attention.
It doesn't feel as self righteous at least is my point. People here deeply assume themselves smarter than anyone else here.
I saw people dogpile a comment cause the first person in a chain misread it and assumed correctly and every comment trying to pull people out of the spiral was downvoted and shouted at for being wrong as they tore each other apart.
It's like chickens seeing another chicken bleeding. They don't even think before they tear their kin to shreds.
For whatever it's worth, I've had some very positive interactions on here, too. And I've seen questions answered when people needed help. And generally useful info types of posts. The comics and memes are often good (if you like those, those are not everyone's cup of tea). Anyway, it's not all jackasses all the time on Lemmy.
It's not worth nothing. I just wish I figured out how to get it not to be the majority without having to silence the spaces where people are.
blocking the .ml instances helps, a lot. I made the recent mistake (twice!) commenting on Lemmy.ml. over there, anything NOT praising Russia, NK, or China is hated. they're pretty smooth-brained and not worth arguing with. same with lemmygrad, same with hexbear. I'm fairly new to federation, and that was a big learning curve for me. a lot of the Europe or US based instances are way more open to hearing opinions and conversation, so I'd start there.
I'm not honestly fighting with .ml people. The people the most rude to me are .world.
I think they are just used as easy scapegoats cause they tend to be loud and passionate.
I can be in a memes thread and still have people argue in bad faith and call me a troll for asking a question about Linux. That's not .ml or hexbear.
The people the most rude to me are .world.
It's also a third of the whole userbase, so definitely a higher number of every type of users, including toxic ones.
Oh dang... Well that somewhat explains the prevalence of their users.
Kinda a problem though that they then still blame other communities when they are Lemmy to a large degree.
If you want an idea of the split, filter this table by MAU (monthly active users): https://fedidb.org/software/lemmy/
I agree. Lemmy is the most unwelcoming social media platform I’ve ever been to. It’s why I no longer recommend it to anyone. People be like, “just leave Twitter,” but then don't have the tiniest bit of tolerance for views that even slightly differ from their own. This doesn’t just apply to the comments either - my highly curated feed, with over 500 of the most toxic users blocked, still mostly consists of people complaining. Look at me; I'm complaining too.
Thats a lot of blocking lol and our monthly user counts is like 50k