That I'm autistic and signs of psychological abuse.
this post was submitted on 27 Oct 2024
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Stoicism. The philosophical ideas of how to live a purposeful and good life.
Aurelius would hate what stoicism has become
Indeed. For many people it has become some kind of Broicism where alpha Incels talk to each other about how tough they have become and how theyβre suppressing their emotions.
Thatβs of course not what I refer to. I actually read the ancient texts and The Inner Citade by Pierre Hadot. When I talk about stoicism I actually mean it in a way that Seneca, Marcus Aurelius, Rufus and Epictetus would agree on.
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My family is never going to return the favor. Should've gone to school instead of taking care of them.
"Family first" is such a contemptible load of crap. Primarily this idea only seems to be brought out by the same exact people that then abuse the notion.
"Family first" is unidirectional. Parents put their kids first. That's the job. I signed up for it, and I'm going to prioritize then as much as I can.
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That you don't put soap in the bootyhole
Wait what? Why?
Basically, soap is not intended for use on the internal part of your body, and will make your whole asshole burn like hell if you put even a bit of it inside...
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Lying can get you ahead in the immediate, but then youβre a liar, and liars lose friends and alienate people.
opposite for me. Sometimes it's better to lie about small details as to not bag down an unrelated conversation with "well actually it was my sister's boyfriend's mother's dogs uncle that told me that, not my sister's boyfriend's dogs aunt."
I also have autism and struggle with conversations so that's probs why.
The danger to me is its sorta impossible to lie without in some way believing it. The Costanza thing. It basically reduces your own ability to discern reality.
Really depends on the lies. Lies that get you ahead on life are typically not the same ones that tend to snger those you care about.
Being a good person is a weakness in capitalist civilizations.
Its a super power, actually. Everytime I meet one they impact my life so deeply I can't help but admire them and completely swoon.
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I know plenty of assholes who aren't rich, so I don't think there's any correlation.
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Oh, please. It's most definitely not.
Agree. If you were 100% capitalist and everything you did was about money, then maybe. But most of us balance that for the benefit of our mental health and, well, not being a dick.
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Go to therapy.
Therapy is maintenance (at the very least). If you haven't ever been to therapy, you're driving around without an oil change.
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Take it sleazy. Not for everyone, but for some people the most productive way of getting stuff done is doing it with less effort. Don't go too fast and burn out
How to make latte art. First success today at the age of forty!
Nice! Best I can do is still just a heart. How are you learning / getting better at it?
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