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Daily discussion thread: 🐑 Monday, June 3, 2024 (aussie.zone)

submitted 5 months ago by Seagoon_@aussie.zone to c/melbourne@aussie.zone

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[–] PeelerSheila@aussie.zone 17 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (5 children)

Warning: anxiety frustration rant.

Well, eldest was supposed to go to school today but had so much anxiety overnight he hardly slept. I got up a few times overnight and he was awake almost every time, laying there worrying, trying to cope. He told me he feels like his world is all crumbling apart. We've moved him back to weekly sessions to try to help him cope. I feel so frustrated for him. Miniest was woken frequently during the night by all this and is exhausted this morning so staying at home too. I'm on the bus going to work and I feel kind of flat inside. When I was a kid my homelife was so shit that being bullied at school was an escape lol. I learnt to dissociate from a really young age. Nothing seems to be consistently working at the moment, and I feel like that mum in The Babadook.

Edit: Mr P got up , had a smoke and went back to bed after learning that he didn't really have to take anyone anywhere or do anything, and I'm jealous of him. When I wasn't working I had time to support everyone and the kids had no problems. I know it's not my fault, having to go out and earn the family income, but it makes me feel hollow somehow and I feel like it is.

[–] TinyBreak@aussie.zone 12 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Good call on not forcing him to go. Just keep working with his mental health team, figuring this stuff out takes time as an adult I imagine its nearly impossible as kid.

[–] PeelerSheila@aussie.zone 9 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Thanks Tiny.

Edit: you're right about it being hard enough for adults let alone a child, I've known quite a few people who just never managed it and fell into substance abuse or alcoholism.

[–] StudChud@aussie.zone 9 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Mini will be okay, school is school and it isn't the be all end all for his life. It sucks so bad that you're holding them all together, and barely have time for yourself. You are amazing, kind, strong, and overall beautiful. You are doing great! You're being an awesome mum! I'm sorry it's all crazy at the moment, but your kids love you, and so do we!

[–] mysticgreg@aussie.zone 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Completely agree. You give a shit about your kids and your family, and from your posts here it sounds like you're doing a bloody amazing job at keeping the show on the road in some trying circumstances.

I don't have advice on how to make things better or easier, I'm still working out this parenting gig for myself and my son is only four-and-a-half going-on-thirty, but I know that you've got this, you rock.

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[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

so many hugs

if possible throw as many household jobs Mr P's way, even if it's just organising the kids

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[–] Eagle@aussie.zone 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

It's so hard when you just want to make it better for your kids and you can't. It's hard too when you don't feel like you have consistent support from the people around you. But you're more than doing your bit, and someone does have to bring home the bacon and keep a roof over heads but I get it, its the hardest job on earth and I see you.

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[–] melbaboutown@aussie.zone 5 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

It sounds like Mr P is volunteering for impromptu homeschooling and childcare duties

Edit: Is it possible to get some of those Naplan math workbooks and the like so he isn't falling behind? I dunno, taking the view that it might be a low pressure way for him to face the schoolwork at home on his own terms, and ease the shock when he goes back. You can also point at them as tangible proof you're doing something

[–] PeelerSheila@aussie.zone 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)

That's a great idea, thanks Melba. I have seen those NAPLAN books around in the past but haven't connected their presence to our current situation in a useful way 💡🙆🏼‍♀️

[–] melbaboutown@aussie.zone 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

No worries, I hope it helps him keep his hand in without overwhelming him. They look expensive at Officeworks but a bit cheaper on Thrift Books. Perhaps you can find some old ones on Ebay, or free legal PDFs? Perhaps by getting past papers from tutoring sites or some such. I googled 'naplan books pdf free legal' and saw stuff like that but I'm not sure which are legit. There's also 'free study material for homeschooling australia' to try.

If all else fails there used to be Educational™️ computer games. When I was little they used to be things like Math Blaster or Lost Secret Of The Rainforest but surely there's something more modern.

Also seriously work together with the school and see if you can get some leeway on this (if you haven't already) because unless he's attending or being homeschooled there could be strife. Even if Mr P is feeling really unwell he could rest on the couch while Eldest works his way through something, and Eldest can get a reward for each completed page. (The reward heavily depends on his age.)

But even if Mr P can do that much definitely access social workers and/or respite care in any way you can, whether it be through the council, Human Services, or Peter Mac. Perhaps see if one of Miniest's friends can sometimes have her over for sleepovers to give you and her a break. You're going through some heavy stuff and nobody is meant to do this much alone.

You might also be eligible for help at home

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[–] Baku@aussie.zone 13 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Just saw a car driving around with "#SackDanAndrews" written on the back lmao. Who's gonna tell her?

[–] Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 6 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Let me! Let meeee!

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[–] Nath@aussie.zone 12 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Happy WA Day, everyone!

Unfortunately, winter arrived in Perth this week and swamped out the city's planned festival. Honestly, we've had showers every day since Tuesday, and the temperature has even dropped below 20° during daylight hours.

At least we have Monday off this week.

[–] Force_majeure123@aussie.zone 4 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Im from WA originally. You reckon it will work to if I ask my boss for the day off to celebrate?

[–] bacon@aussie.zone 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Please submit your birth certificate, a supporting letter from a WA resident, and an application fee of $200. Your application will be processed in three business days.

[–] Force_majeure123@aussie.zone 4 points 5 months ago

😭

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[–] Dalek_Thal@aussie.zone 10 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Just a reminder that during covid, it was possible to eat well and healthily for a week for $75, with some snacks and non-essentials thrown in, too.

How long until we stop taking it up the arse?

[–] TinyBreak@aussie.zone 9 points 5 months ago

they could at least use some lube of lower interest rates/rent/slowing imigration/boosting the building industry. Getting a bit sick of taking it raw.

[–] melbaboutown@aussie.zone 7 points 5 months ago

That's the thing. With food and housing we can't really boycott or go without and it's not always possible to go to a competitor (assuming one exists).

There was an inquiry and legal recommendations but good luck https://theconversation.com/yes-australias-big-supermarkets-have-been-price-gouging-but-fixing-the-problem-wont-be-easy-229602

[–] Duenan@aussie.zone 9 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Facebook marketplace update:

Was given a home address for pickup and discussed payment options and the when and how.

Was only about 500 metres out of my way to going home so it was easy.

Seller had the item ready and let me inspect it for any damage when I asked and I paid after I was satisfied with what I saw via Pay ID as discussed.

Have come home now and tested it and it’s working 100%.

Success!!!

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[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

dealing with a cunstomer who doesn't understand what the fuck he's supposed to be doing and rather than listen to someone who does know what they're doing and can give them nice and easy instructions has decided to get belligerent.

Fuck I hate these ones.

[–] StudChud@aussie.zone 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Ah cuntstomers, the bane of any client/customer servicing role 🤢

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 4 points 5 months ago (3 children)

I rarely get the outright cunt kind, I tend to do mostly back of house and either deal with likeminded techs, or people who know exactly how far out of their depth they are and trust what I'm doing. But this dude...oh I wanna jam a squirrel in him.

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[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 9 points 5 months ago

good lord. I did the usual laundry/ toilet / kitchen / dining Monday clean, then turned around and deep cleaned the kitchen / dining room including the microwave and oven, scrubbed the floors, steamopped, took a bunch of stuff to charity, did my half hour walk with weights, then made a bunch of macadamia and white chocolate chip cookies.

has someone been feeding me smack?

[–] TinyBreak@aussie.zone 8 points 5 months ago (4 children)

So I took a drive out to Pakey East yesterday. I'll be honest, i was critical of the whole thing! You're telling me you wanna live even FURTHER out than pakenham? But, honestly: the station was imperssive. And from the new estate you should be able to see the mountains in the distance... it actually looks kind of cool. Course the connecting roads are all dogshit, and there is no sign of a new school or woolies or whatever. From the 1 time I've been there I can say pakey deffo needs at least 1 more Aldi.

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[–] TinyBreak@aussie.zone 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Mrs just text saying she thinks shes coming down with something. 5 minutes later I've got a sore throat. Ruh Roh!

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 5 points 5 months ago

you're parents of a wee bairn, you'll be tired so you catch stuff

hugs and get sleep

[–] imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 8 points 5 months ago (6 children)

Argh!! Hung out with mates and played with their little one yesterday and now they found out she has head lice.

Do I need to get one of those combs thngos and do a check? Is there a good precaution treatment I can do? Parents of the DT help?

[–] dumblederp@aussie.zone 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

full wax

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[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

ffs, now I'm itchy.

Parent here and Miss Seagoon had very long hair.

Nothing works better than treating hair with chem warfare agents, treating all the bedding, doing lots of vacuuming

And having someone else carefully check your hair strand by strand. Yes, just like monkeys do.

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[–] Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 4 points 5 months ago

Don't panic. Dealing with headlice is a rite of passage for parents. Happens to all of us. If it's any consolation, headlice prefer clean hair to dirty hair. There are no precautions that I know of other than living in a sealed bubble. Which isn't living and the kids won't learn much.

If you are unlucky enough to find them on the kids/pets/carpets, buy a fine tooth comb (try Chemists Warehouse or Kmart) and a biiiig bottle of cheap conditioner. Apply undiluted conditioner generously to dry hair to immobilise the lice, then comb out the nits & eggs. Rinse. Repeat the next day and again in a week's time. Wash all bedding on hot or with bleach added and tumble dry. That includes pillows and doonas. Vacuum madly in all directions including the mattresses and curtains. Dispose of the vacuum dust in a sealed bag immediately. Treat your pets for lice too.

You may need to repeat all this a few times roughly a week apart depending on species and whether the kids are getting re-infected at playgroup or whatever. The idea is to get rid of all adult lice and then any eggs that hatch before they get old enough to lay more eggs. If you've still got them a month down the track, ring nurse on call or your gp for nasty chemical help.

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[–] Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I only woke up once last night instead 4 or 5 times. So it's worked. Didn't realise how badly I needed a good night's sleep.

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)

same, I'm still sleepy tho

[–] Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 5 points 5 months ago

I got 13 hours which is crazy. Guess I needed it badly.

[–] Catfish@aussie.zone 6 points 5 months ago

I don’t know what the official temperature is, but I don’t like it.

[–] Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Any ideas on how to get cat pee off a backpack? Washing machine? Or hose it down?

[–] CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I'd put it in a pillow case and tie it with a rubber band and chuck it in the washing machine.

[–] Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

That's an awesome idea!!! I never would have thought of that in a million years.

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[–] melbaboutown@aussie.zone 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Oof ouch owie. Just forked out quite a lot for Melbcat's vet care. Thankfully I had emergency money saved. We're now waiting on a test to come back to see what bacteria the uti is because she's resistant to a few antibiotics now 😔 I wish I'd managed to get her in sooner

[–] imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Poor melbcat. Fingers crossed it's one that's easily treated

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[–] bacon@aussie.zone 6 points 5 months ago (4 children)

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[–] underwatermagpies@aussie.zone 5 points 5 months ago

Speeding fine, poo.

[–] Catfish@aussie.zone 5 points 5 months ago (3 children)

I urgently require bacon quiche.

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[–] Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Despite getting enough sleep today has been an absolute shit fest. Here's hoping for a better day tomorrow.

Goodnight everyone

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[–] Railison@aussie.zone 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Why is the public holiday not today 🥲

[–] tombruzzo@aussie.zone 4 points 5 months ago

It is in New Zealand. But next week we'll be off whilst they're at work

[–] Duenan@aussie.zone 5 points 5 months ago (10 children)

Hey Gang,

First time potentially purchasing from facebook marketplace.

Any tips or what I'm in for?

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[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Movie review. The Hobbit, an Unexpected Journey.

I might be biased but I think I can truthfully say this movie looks beautiful. The costumes, the sets and locations, the props, just everything has been designed and made by artists and expert artisans.

The casting and characters are perfection.

Story and dialogue is great too, even if it should have been two movies instead of three.

That line 'Bless me, the legends are true! giants! STONE GIANTS!' just tickles me. A dwarf being stunned that stone giants exist in their world while neither exists in mine.

5 out of 4 hobbits

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