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Yeah, it feels strange to say something like "I have a habit of locking my door when I come inside, I don't even think about it, it is totally automatic for me" and then say "I don't have a habit of going to the gym because I have to consciously make effort to do it." Like yeah, no shit going to the gym "takes effort" that locking a door doesn't. That doesn't make one a habit and not a habit.
There seems to be two usages of habit going on and they're being conflated. Something as big as exercising cannot become so automatic that you do it without thinking. That doesn't mean it isn't a "habit." Things as easy as buckling a seatbelt or locking a door can become automatic and thoughtless but that isn't the aspect that makes them habits.
I find it hard to make these criticisms because I don't want to sound like I'm saying "just get over it" for dealing with ADHD. I have it too. There are tons of things that I'm jealous of neurotypical folks of for being able to do easily. I get the feeling of this post but I can't help but feel that they have totally misunderstood what people mean by habits. I also still feel like developing good habits might be easier for neurotypical folks, but the idea that they just do something as complex and involved as exercising totally on autopilot rather than deciding to go do it is off. It's easy to get into this self defeating mindset with ADHD of feeling like you can't do something. I don't want people to fall into that trap just because they misunderstand what people mean by the word habit.
Yeah it seems like a lot of people are confusing routines with habits. It's definitely possible to get into a routine of going to the gym, eating a healthy breakfast, and then showering and brushing your teeth. None of those things are effortless, nor will they ever be.