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So, somebody lectured me for not putting a CW on Mastodon when I shared food photos for #MakanApaToday yesterday. I got super annoyed and was snarky. The guilt tripping didn't stop as a number of people came and said, "can't you be more understanding?" You know what, I am over being understanding when Mastodon has powerful filter and blocking capabilities. I do that for Us politics which I found so annoying on Mastodon 🤣 I don't go lecturing people to put up CW for their posts. Also, I feel that this is a little hashtag space where we SEA have fun, and to have these people tell us to hide it just got me furious. I did start thinking, "Maybe I should stop posting on Mastodon and post here instead..." and that got me annoyed too. Why should I stop just because 1 or 2 people didn't like the images of food??
Just this morning someone slipped into the comments to passively aggressive suggest that maybe my mention of calories in the post was triggering - and I got fed up. I told her we shouldn't be told to hide something the SEA community loves, especially if it is harmless to most people.
Seriously never in my life did I think about food being something we should hide 🤪 folks have explained it to me why, including photos with eyes being triggering, and I thought - this is one thing I dislike about Mastodon. There's a reaallllly entitled community that demands you do things their way or they guilt you into thinking you are baaaad.
What do you guys think? I really like the #MakanApaToday thread and don't think it should be CWed cos hinestly, it is harmless and fun!!
You have to understand, when Twitter getting bought by Elon, there's a mass exodus going from twitter to mastodon, so you're basically interact with the similar twitter folks, and twitter folks do be like that.
Next time just block that one or two people and soon enough you won't get bugged by those funless neckbeard.
They keep coming. 😂 I don't even follow them. Some do, and I mute them.i even advice them to unfollow and block me. I suspect the only way they can find our post is to literally follow our hashtag - that's a special kind of crazy. If you find it so offensive blockla, why harass people on the hashtag??
It’s not just Twitter though. On Facebook or TikTok, there will be same types of ppl (though with different politics) who comment “tudung, mana tudung???”
isn't neckbeard more of a reddit stereotype? twitter for me they are very liberal, toxic kind that loves to cancel people.
Well, i take neckbeard the kind of person who have no social skill and with superiority complex :x
How else am I supposed to understand Rick and Morty if I don’t have high IQ? scratched neck beard
what is CW?
Content warning. Basically put the content behind an expander block, so you have to expand it to read it. People put CW on all kinds of things including photos with eyes 😅
Meanwhile in another part of the world, there’ll be ppl who ask women to “CW” whenever they dare to show any body part other than their eyes 👀
Same type of ppl really
👀 "You must behave exactly like I demand so that my life will be easier"
no, it really shouldn't be CWed
there's a line where it's not just things that are triggering for people but a part of daily life! food is life and culture and family and something people shouldn't have to cover up and hide!
some people are entitled and it's ridiculous
Right? The culture bridge building is always via food. These people are the special kind of weirdo
I don't understand why they can't just use the filter function 😅 so hardworking to nag people about this when a filter and block is all you need to do.