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[–] stevedidwhat_infosec@infosec.pub 118 points 4 months ago (4 children)

Captain bummer here:

Most people if this were a guy, would immediately call this out as toxic, manipulative, and abusive behavior

I’ll err on the side of optimism and assume this was just a joke pic, but I did want to shed light on the fact that fucking with your partners food without their knowledge and consent is abusive and manipulative.

[–] rekabis@lemmy.ca 20 points 4 months ago

The litmus test of determining if there is bigotry involved is to change the terms in contention. If it is bigoted in one direction, it is fundamentally bigoted in both.

You hit the nail on the head when you posited “if this was a guy doing it to his girlfriend” it would be toxic, manipulative, and abusive.

Let’s make misandry as unacceptable as misogyny. Because true equality will be impossible until we do.

[–] MBM@lemmings.world 9 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Most people if this were a guy, would immediately call this out as toxic, manipulative, and abusive behavior

...is anyone implying that this is fine, if it wasn't a joke?

[–] stevedidwhat_infosec@infosec.pub 2 points 4 months ago

Silence is complacency and, therefore, just as problematic.

Doesn’t have to be explicitly stated.

[–] Riven@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 4 months ago

So it's been sort of a joke that my current fiancee and my ex both didn't want me to lose weight because they think I look hot chubby. Both have said that they would leave me if I ever did get skinny. As a joke of course, so I assume this is a joke too.