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So I sat my wife down and expressed VERY clearly that we are NOT getting involved in that thing earlier this week. So whats she doing this weekend? You have GOT to be fucking kidding me.
Let her. Just don't get involved yourself. This gives you "I told you so" rights when she comes home exhaustipated and emotionally vulnerable. However, you may not wish to exercise those rights in the interests of family harmony.
Best if she discovers for herself that you can only help those who want to be helped. Let this one slide past without getting yourself involved I think. Just have some comfort for her ready when she gets back. Maybe cook dinner and do all the kid things while she's busy elsewhere.
This is the latest in a long line of "I say this is a bad idea, Mrs Break says "yes" then does EXACTLY the bad idea thing". Think we're gonna have a sit down conversation about this. She's absolutely entitled to do whatever the hell she wants, but each time makes it a little bit tougher to trust her judgement.
It's really important you don't make her feel bad or stupid, you have to keep her trusting you. Don't let the situation get to a place where she starts doing things in secret.
Fuuuuuuuuuck that
Yeah I'm staying RIGHT out of it, and the second it affects the kid shes in a world of trouble.
Is she taking the kid with her? If not, then it's her problem what happens. Maybe volunteer to have the kid yourself all day so no pressure on her. If she wants to take the kid with her - fight like hell to stop that. No one sane takes a kid into a toxic situation.
It has occurred to me that maybe mrs break wants to sit down with someone that isn't going to criticise her and have a good whinge about life the universe and everything and especially MEN with someone who sounds like an olympic grade whinger themselves. Best to stay right out of that one for your own sanity. Take your kid to the park and build a happy memory instead.
her intention was to take the kid yes.
her plan was I think she didnt really want to take my word on something as serious as this and really wanted to assess for her own judgement which look I understand that, but the original comment from me was we needed to take some space. It wasnt "lets never hang out" it was just a "deffo not this weekend"