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How to overcome ADHD guilt? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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Often when I start feeling guilty for putting off a task (even if I genuinely didn't have time), the guilt makes it harder for me to get back to it. It's an additional emotion that I have to barge through in order to get started.

What if the person is annoyed with me for still not having replied? What if they've followed up with a strongly worded email that I'm now going to have to suffer through? And I'm going to have to come up with an excuse for taking so long. This would have been so much easier if I'd done it yesterday.

The guilt increases exponentially. How do you dispel it so that it's not in the way of actually getting to the task?
(Alcohol and sleep deprivation does not count)

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[–] Phantaminum@lemmy.zip 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

Hey, feel like that a lot.

Just like most of the people here I try to accept that I'm this way, and even if I don't want, I will not do things and feel bad. I try just to apologize and get the thing done if possible. Not much to do besides that.

Also when I'm on a low mood moment these feelings of guilt appear to be enormous, but eventually you get yourself up an they are manageable. Being burn down by that is pretty common for me, so I wish you some rest!

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

That's true, I've found that just like how there are moments when you feel less and more prepared to jump into cold water or step into a cold shower, there are moments when I feel less and more ready to face that guilt, so it is worth taking a moment to wait for the feeling to be right.