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While multiple factors play a role in falling divorce rates, the costs of separation make going it alone a daunting prospect for many Canadians.

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[–] crazyrandomweird@lemmynsfw.com 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Yup. I have it relatively easy. Our relationship is cordial on the surface. We have a house in Toronto that will be paid off this year. We're financially doing well. And we have a wonderful boy we're raising together.

I'm miserable though. She has a short temper. Our interactions are filled with micro aggressions. We haven't so much as kissed in years. I would love nothing more than to leave and just live in peace for a while.

I can't. Homes go for over 2 mil in my neighborhood, rents are about 4k for a 2 bedroom. Unless I want to abandon my son and move far away. I simply cannot afford to live where we live right now.

Instead I'm in therapy trying to develop strategies to cope.

Before anybody chimes in: I do all of the house work, groceries, cooking, cleaning and laundry. The only thing I don't do is fold her laundry as she doesn't like the way I do it, which she complains to me about. I also pay the majority of the bills and child care and then again, I get flak for not saving enough money compared to her.

[–] LaserTurboShark69@sh.itjust.works -1 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Why did you dive in so deep with this person?

[–] LeFantome@programming.dev 6 points 5 months ago

The answer is no doubt long, complicated, and not nearly as easy to avoid as you are imagining. Let’s not compound his problems.

This question implies that she was always like this. She wasn't. In retrospect, I should have noticed the signs after we got married. But I didn't didn't until after we had our kid.