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Still looking for my pack. Every time I think I find one it dissolves.
It’s hard. And I feel like the older we get, the busier our days are and suddenly it’s been months since we last messaged each other. The time blindness and “out of sight, out of mind” definitely doesn’t help.
Thank you! That perfectly describes the "time blindness" problem I've been noticing more and more lately. There's always been a descrepancy between what I think is a normal time between contact and what others think. I'll happily move on to my day-to-day life and then contact a friend a month or two later and they'll feel resentment because of the time. Honestly I hadn't even noticed it, certainly wasn't intentional or meant to hurt.
Friendship is a two-way street. If they resent you for the time when they could just as easily contact you too then they're not a good friend.