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[Question] How do you balance your mental health? (orcas.enjoying.yachts)

submitted 1 year ago by soben@orcas.enjoying.yachts to c/dadsonly@lemmy.world

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Ever since we've had kids, my usual laid back attitude has been replaced with increasing stress and anxiety. I feel like I manage it well enough, but at the same time I find myself becoming more and more of a hermit.

I need to get out more (run club once a week right now), and I always feel better when I do, but I also feel guilty for leaving the wife with the kids, or not spending time with them, by doing things for myself.

What do you to balance yourself and your family?

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[–] CooperHawkes@lemm.ee 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hello fellow dad!

The key here is to work on not feeling guilty about solo time. It’s not easy. But it’s necessary. You need to recharge and some solo run time is an excellent way of doing it. One method I use is to remind myself that by doing this for me it will aid my family because I will be in a better head space for them.

As important as this is you should also encourage your wife to get some solo time as well. She needs balance too.

Best of luck to you!

[–] soben@orcas.enjoying.yachts 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yea, my wife gets way more solo time than I do!

[–] CooperHawkes@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Good!

Then for sure don’t feel guilty about solo time. You need it and your family needs you to need it.

[–] soben@orcas.enjoying.yachts 2 points 1 year ago

That's the thing, I feel that she deserves it more than I do. She's had to commit so much more of her body/time towards the kids, especially in those early months (and prior to birth)... so there's a lot more that she should get before I get anything.