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[–] StudChud@aussie.zone 7 points 7 months ago (3 children)

rant about exI keep thinking about that stupid DM my ex sent me on Reddit, and I was getting annoyed that it was still on my mind. Like, why am I angry at it?

I realised it's because, despite claiming to have grown since we split, she is still just as self-centred as usual. She hasn't grown, or changed. This is just the same text-wall shit they would send me while I was at work, listing all the reasons I suck and am bad, and expect me to reply instantly and if I didn't I was accused of cheating. Like, same shit, just without the accusations of infidelity.

That DM was better off journalled and shown to their therapist tbh. They acknowledge they weren't a great person, but in the same sentence claim I wasn't either. Like, that isn't anything, nothing substantial. Just "I was bad... But so were you!!"

Stupid motherfucker, dumbass, shitstained cunt. She already lives rent free in my head due to CPTSD, like get out of my DMs you fuck knuckle. Does your girlfriend know you sent that drivel to me at 3am on a Monday morning?? Go pay attention to her ffs. You claim to have read my Reddit comments, why did you feel the need to send me that after I told everyone on there you're a rapist abuser? Fuck off with that shit you slimeball.

[–] Catfish@aussie.zone 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)
[–] bacon@aussie.zone 5 points 7 months ago
[–] SituationCake@aussie.zone 5 points 7 months ago

The effects of other people can really linger in our minds. If you no longer want contact, a simple reply of something like ‘I don’t want to revisit our past, or have any further contact. Please don’t contact me again’ and then block number. Message is useful because it’s closure for you and sets a clear boundary, but if you think it’s better for your mental health to not reply at all, just block number and say good bye to that part of your life.

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 4 points 7 months ago

so many hugs

and time for new reddit accounts