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My wife asks similar questions as you. I think neurotypicals have learned to correlate certain tones/mannerisms with certain emotions, and when they don’t match up it’s jarring. As for why they can’t seem to make an exception for you, well, I think it’s just that it’s so ingrained that they cant help it. They could TRY, but deep down they would still expect things to be a certain way, so it might grate on them until they just give up. Depends on their level of empathy and patience I suppose.
when I talked to my sister about it, she said she understands and it's just different for her, so we both have to work on adjusting to each other, which makes sense. yaknow, find a middle ground. but some people just won't ajust or try to understand and I find it so infuriating