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submitted 7 months ago by uzi@lemmy.ca to c/vancouver@lemmy.ca

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Why does it seem that people actively avoid expressing disaagreements on what somone says when they are out somewhere having a conversation? Why arwe people more concerned about trying to sound nice rather than being honest? It's not provactive or antagonizing to simply say "I can't agree with you on that, I disagree." I suspect that if someone articulates the reasoning behind their disagreement, a lot of people would not be bothered by it, unless someone wants everybody to believe the same things and are easily disturbed by contrary points of views.

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[–] uzi@lemmy.ca -1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Overall I would say yes I could counter but I'll leave it, you've made it more complicated than what I was pursuing, but also seemingly sounding like a lot of locals or more empty than I thought and I have to understand that the people of Vancouver operate on a lower functional level and have lower standards so people can't recognize what is wrong with how they conduct themself.

[–] Jimmycrackcrack@lemmy.ml 3 points 7 months ago

Well if it makes you feel better, this popped up on my front page while I was scrolling and I didn't even notice it was specific to Vancouver so I probably did overcomplicate things a bit since I thought you were musing on life in general when asking this question, so sorry for wasting your time a little there.

That said, I think we may have stumbled on the answer to your question through this process anyway. I've never been to Vancouver but I suspect the locals may have been picking up on some signals you're putting out that we're seeing right here in your manner on Lemmy as well and that's probably why you're noticing this strange tendency to avoid expressing disagreement or more likely engaging much at all when you talk to people over there. Do you tend to find this only happens after they've spent more than a couple of minutes talking to you?

Anyway, sorry you have to live in a world with such a "low standard" of people, it must be difficult being the only person you know that operates on that higher level, but hey, I'll bet if you just politey let everyone you meet know that they're functioning at a low standard and don't even realise it they'll be ever so glad that you told them your reasoning, even if they might disagree, and eventually this strategy will help you really settle in to Vancouver. Maybe you'll even eventually be able to raise everyone else's standards a little just by being there to teach everyone.

Good luck Vancouver!