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Men Over Thirty. When it comes to dating, what's your age cut-off? (feddit.uk)

submitted 7 months ago by Oneeightnine@feddit.uk to c/askmenover30@lemm.ee

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So I've got a friend at work; just turned thirty. He's perhaps not the smartest tool in the shed, and whilst he does look thirty, I think if we were guessing his age by his level of maturity, we'd place him fairly squarely in the 18-22 age range.

Anyway, 30 has had this ongoing thing with this girl at work. She's 19. He sees nothing wrong with it, and whilst that may be true from a legal standpoint....most of us think it a bit ... untoward at best.

This post isn't about him though. It's about you. What's your age cut-off, both high and low for dating?

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[–] ObsidianZed@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I'm in a relationship currently and haven't looked in 7-8 years but hard cut off is obviously 18 (probably more like 21 though). I'm not going to not give someone a chance just because they are a few years younger or older than some arbitrary number.

But realistically I'd want someone close to my age with similar experiences. There's an inherent connection to be made with someone that grew up watching the same cartoons, having the same toys, seeing technology grow during roughly the same stages in our lives, etc.

I'm soon to be 35 and if I suddenly found myself single, I wouldn't immediately turn down someone +/- 10-15 years of my age. I fully agree that it's objectively weird and creepy and would probably feel some shame if I were to try to bring home a 21 year old, but some people you just click with. Though you may always learn that, hey you two are in completely different stages of your respective lives and you just don't have as much in common at you first thought and it's probably best to move forward separately. That's just part of life.

Sorry for the ramble, it's late/early and I'm still reeling from the time change and in a weird mood unable to sleep.