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[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 29 points 8 months ago (3 children)

Back when I was pretending to be a boy, I had just hit 9th grade and moved to a new school. I was always a late bloomer in terms of my first puberty but it hit me like a freight train when it did.

All of a sudden my legs, arms, belly, nipples (weirdly) got hairy and I was terribly self conscious about it. Not that I had an obscene amount of hair, but it really felt like I did. It felt gross and uncomfortable. Never wore shorts or short sleeve shirts because of it. Even in the dead of summer.

After a few months of this curse, I decided enough was enough - stole one of my mom's super cheap bic razors and hacked away at my entire body. Took me a few hours to get every inch. Many cuts and scraped, but I finally felt like I could be a bit more comfortable in my skin.

Felt great about my decision until everyone at school noticed and made fun of me because it was really "weird" and I didn't have a good enough reason for why I did it other than "I felt trapped under all of the hair, I just really don't like it"

Peer pressure took over and I eventually stopped after a few months. A decade later, my egg finally cracked.

Can you guess what the first thing I did was after realizing I am a woman?

electric razor noises

[–] Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Oh my god, only now after reading this do I understand why as a trans guy I had the opposite experience; I shaved my arms on an impulse in elementary school and when I realized how long it was going to take to grow back I was SO EMBARRASSED about the thought that people might notice that I wore a jacket in the summer heat in the south until it grew back.

[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 8 months ago (1 children)

You're welcome to my remaining hair if you're interested but act fast! I'm starting laser tomorrow ✌🏻

Love that we both ended up choosing to give ourselves heat stroke for opposite but also similar reasons, lol 😅

I bid one billion dollars for all that hair!

In all seriousness, congrats on getting laser tomorrow. Hope all goes well.

[–] RiikkaTheIcePrincess@pawb.social 10 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Oiii the judgment over every hair! Shortly after I started shaving my everything, I broke a toe. Being an idiot, I asked BioMom to have a look at it and all she wanted to talk about was "You shaved your toes?!?" Like... what? My toe hair is the problem here?!

Turns out it was obviously broken, just some people care more about ensuring that others present 100% how they're "supposed to" than about even visible physical harm 🤷 It's ridiculous and awful, foreal!

Edit: typo fix D:

[–] A_Very_Big_Fan@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

Never wore shorts or short sleeve shirts because of it. Even in the dead of summer.

Haven't even finished reading but SAME. I never understood why I felt more comfortable with my arms and legs covered, though, I just knew I didn't like not having them covered.