Men's Liberation
This community is first and foremost a feminist community for men and masc people, but it is also a place to talk about men’s issues with a particular focus on intersectionality.
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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
Related Communities
!feminism@beehaw.org
!askmen@lemmy.world
!mensmentalhealth@lemmy.world
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What is the need for male-only spaces? I can see the need for positive male role models for sure, and those would've often been found in those male-only spaces you mentioned. But what is lacking from not having them be male-only?
Mental health and happiness.
It honestly depends how truthful you want to be. The first is men are allowed to talk about issues with other men without being judged for it. So it could be "I'm worried I don't make enough money for my family" they wouldn't want their family or family's friends around then. Could be "I'm having this sex issue". Could be "this one night stand sexually abused me and if I tell anyone she told me she will go public that I raped her when I was the victim!". Without men only spaces those conversations can't happen because you can't say "oh I'm going to," actually where? haha I can't even think of an example where a man can go to talk about sexual violence, thats how bad it is. But I meant "oh I'm going to go to this sexual violence clinic for men and it will be in secret so you don't know I'm going" it needs to be a casual place that allows for other conversations.
Now this is the controversial part that will divide people. I think most men simply just enjoy men only spaces some of the time. They feel less judged and they feel it's more friendly. I honestly think men only spaces are important to mens health because they can enjoy themselves and act "normal" they can act in a way that feels natural to them rather than acting the way women find socially acceptable.
you need men-only environments to be happy?
also you ask for sex advice at the gym, at the scouts, at the club?
Your need for gender exclusivity really is on you mate, please don't act like it's universal.
There is a debate to be had. But just as women benefit from women only spaces men might benefit from it too. Because sexual selection always plays a role in social dynamics, especially at that age. But I'm not sure it needs institutions for that, and that also isn't an argument for men only "good old boys clubs". More about good male (non toxic) role models.
What you get now are vile role models online that are actively pushing toxic masculinity or even fascism.