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Try giving those compliments.
It's not what you're asking about but most people want that kind of attention sometimes.
I'm a middle-aged straight dude. I compliment other guys beards, hats, jackets, whatever, because we NEVER get compliments.
And it's common to want or need feel special and noticed now and again.
It's the stuff you remember - one guy in a work meeting saying 'Damn that was fast' when I came up with a good comeback, or the guy at the convenience store who went nuts when he heard my voice and realized I was the guy who had the big bushy beard (that I'd shaved the night before as a Halloween 'costume'.)
Tbh I am kinda on the fence on this particular subject, like some sort of a compliment when I am a bit down would be nice, but the feeling of being complimented once every two/three years is so absolutely ethereal to me that I don’t wanna let it go, it’s a different kind of happiness which I don’t think I would get if I started getting compliments more regularly
But you know that is just my opinion
I understand this concern. It has been a strange shift but honestly it’s wonderful. That ethereal feeling doesn’t necessarily go away but it does change a bit.
As you get better at giving compliments and lifting people up you will draw similar people to you and teach people around you to speak to you in a similar way. There’s a feedback loop that raises that ethereal feeling to something more familiar but no less effecting.