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[–] invertedspear@lemm.ee 17 points 9 months ago (1 children)

My wife doesn’t brag about me to her friends because when her friends brag about their husbands it’s insanely basic shit. For example one had Covid and was bragging about how her husband learned how to make eggs for the kids so she could get a little extra sleep in the morning. Eggs! Look, if you don’t know how to cook eggs, you don’t know how to cook. It’s a life skill, not a wife skill. Not saying you need to be the family cook, break down household chores however works best for you, but be prepared to take over any and all chores from your spouse at the drop of a hat. You never know when sickness might happen, or worse. What would you do if you suddenly became a single parent if only for a week? Know how to do it all now so you can take it on when you need to.

[–] Umechan@reddthat.com 2 points 9 months ago

Yes. I'm not married, and I'm sometimes shocked at how some men seem to use marriage as an excuse not to learn basic life skills, especially in an age when you can learn almost any non-professional skill for free on YouTube.

My dad always did his fair share of housework, but he rarely cooked. Once I was old enough, I would cook for him whenever my mother was away. During her first trip away after I got my first job, my dad got really drunk because he didn't feel like waiting for me to get home and make him dinner before going out. He was born in the 1940s, so I accept that his generation were raised to see cooking as feminine, but we should have moved on from that.