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So I just started practicing makeup a few weeks ago. Honestly I found that eyeliner makes the most radical difference for me. It definitely helps me pass, and look even younger. For context I've been on HRT three years and getting electrolysis hair removal for a few months. Very happy with my body right now, but my face still makes me dysphoric.
That's not to suggest eyeliner is the secret to passing, but rather how discovering and perfecting even one thing can make a huge difference. You don't necessarily need to master everything. Like I tried foundation, blush, lipstick, eye shadow and liner for a 'complete look', and it's a nice look, but I don't really need most of that.
Every face is different, makeup will definitely level you up once you discover what works best. Having an AFAB friend to help you out is invaluable.
My advice is start subtle. Don't think of it as covering up your face, or becoming someone else, but rather matching your skin/face's natural qualities. Less is definitely more.
Yes, you are absolutely right. I forgot to update here but I bought eyeliner (one that actually worked) and it was a night and day difference :D
Also yes I have a friend that is helping me with makeup (tho from afar sadly, I send her pics and she gives advice) and it's working out well.