askmenover30

Yes and no. I’ve had a phenomenal couple’s counselor that saved my relationship. I’ve had other therapists where my basic impression was that I’d tell them a problem I had, and their response was that I needed to tell myself “it’s not that bad.” I don’t blame them, it’s very hard to rewire depression that I’ve had since I was 8.

I think you need to shop around for someone that works for you. It’s incredibly difficult, and frankly there’s not enough professionals to go around. You can’t be afraid to fire a therapist that isn’t working. You also have to put in a lot of work outside of your sessions. I can empathize with the people who said it didn’t work for them, it’s rare and complicated to find someone that can work with you and for you.