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What is a pickme in context of Trans people (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 9 months ago by FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/asktransgender@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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So I dealt with a nasty person a few days ago and one of the things this person did was calling people pick-mes while accusing them of being transphobic. The problem is I have no idea what this word or phrase means. I know it isn't good but I don't really understand how it relates to someone other than somehow being connected or associated with transphobia, and also likely being insulting.

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[–] frogfruit 8 points 9 months ago

It basically means a trans person who cares a lot about appealing to conservatives/transphobes as "one of the good ones," in ways that are often damaging to other trans people.

Someone who is called a pick me might say stuff like "you don't have to use preferred pronouns if they don't pass" or "you're not a [man/woman] if you don't have [sex organ]." They might be against transition even though they have transitioned and don't regret it. They might excessively shit talk other trans people. They might "debate" a lot of conservatives and end up agreeing with them on various points.