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What I do:
$0 tip
In the special instructions: "Ring doorbell for cash tip. Do not just leave at door".
Traffic in my area is awful so I always tip $20 no matter the order. Sometimes that comes to almost an 80% tip but a) I know it goes to the driver, b) I don't have to drive in that shitshow, and c) I reward a driver for actually reading the special instructions.
Is it even convenient at that point? I don't know if I'd have an extra twenty I can keep tossing out there every time I'm trying to grab a bite.
How convenient should it be?
How much would you pay a friend you see every couple months that is friends with your other friends to go out and buy fast food for you while you sit at home playing videogames instead?
What amount of money would make that feel ok to you?
Assuming it would take more than 2 dollars to feel ok with that, why is it ok to spend less on a stranger doing it? And how much less is ok?
The "that's somebody's job, they signed up for that" mentality that prevents so many people from doing what little they can to make that job suck just a little bit less at often times nearly no cost to themselves, like not clearing their trays/garbage at a fast food place, or leaving all their stuff at their seats in a movie theater... it's such a pervasive mentality, "I don't -have- to do it, so why should I?".
Do you want to live in a world where people are nice to you, well too bad, cuz they don't -have- to be. As long as that mentality persists, we can't have that world. Doing things you don't -have- to do to make someone else's life just a little easier, is the foundation of basic kindness.
Maybe I'm wrong. I think you're misunderstanding the person you're replying to, and I didn't not get from them did they find it inconvenient to pay a stranger more money because it's a stranger, just saying that they find it to be inconvenient to spend an extra $20 on top of the meal anytime they want delivery and it would probably be better off to go pick it up themselves or make food at home which is what I do. Haven't ordered delivery in months because it's such a waste of money.
That person also never said anything about how "that's somebody's job and they signed up for it" and that was you that brought that into this mix. I don't know why you're getting so offended or pissed off about that comment. They're just saying that paying an extra $20 for delivery is inconvenient and costly.
If you are a driver and you make money from doordash or Uber, you might want to consider getting into a different line of work because those companies are just scamming the hell out of you and there's no need to be so defensive of them.
Hmm, maybe I have to change some wording. That is not at all the tone I was going for, I'm not angry or anything like that. And certainly not trying to direct anything at one specific person, or defend any terrible companies doing the things I specifically am saying shouldn't feel comfortable. I'll see what I can do to the post to clear things up some.
But I do agree that if you wouldn't make a friend do something, you shouldn't feel ok making a stranger do it, do it yourself or don't do it.
The post is not some line for line rebuttal, it's more of a loose essay based off a hypothetical posit.
If someone tips a set amount regularly they can easily plan ahead.
Then don't? They're not saying everyone needs to shell out $20 for every order...
Did you weigh that $20 against all of the effort that you would need to go get your own damn food? You are paying for convenience! If you want a good deal don't pay someone else to do your work for you.
No way is driving 5 minutes to pick up food in town worth an hour's wage to me. And on top of saving me fees and tip money for myself I will get my food faster hotter and fresher and it also won't smell of cigarettes. I do not order delivery at this point. I only pick up or make food at home. Delivery is a waste of money
Don't you have to accept the order before you can read the special instructions?
Yep, and I can also drop the order.
Dashers can see what you tip on the app on average and nobody will pick up your order unless it's extremely convenient for them. They don't see the instructions until they pick up the order.
Yep. It is another reason I overtip in cash. If this person is desperate enough to grab a "no tip" order, they probably need the $20 tip on a $36 order more than most.
Oh, that's a good way to get them to ring the bell. I tried making them ring the bell other ways, but they never do. Uber Eats has a feature where they need to get a code from you to prove they handed you the food. I had several drivers leave the food at the door and then text me, asking me for the code. Fuck off
It’s worth noting that drivers don’t see the note until after they accept the order. There’s a good chance your food takes longer to be picked up because of your $0 tip.
Better to put the tip in the app, give cash, and then adjust the tip back to $0 after the delivery is made. Just communicate that with the driver to avoid confusion.