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DonnieNarco@lemmy.world

New dad here! (lemmy.world)

submitted 10 months ago by lameidunnowat@lemmy.world to c/dadsonly@lemmy.world

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Mind sharing any piece of advice that you felt particularly useful? Thank you in advance. I’m so excited!

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[–] blazeknave@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

            
              everyone has opinions. Only your instincts are what matter for you and your family. Politely nod, internalize, synthesize against all your other inputs, and decide for yourself
wrt #1, you dont owe anyone shit
the days are long but the months and years are short. What seems like the hard part, is the important part, and it's fleeting from day one. Every second, your child is growing further from you from birth. Savor this
photos and videos. Tons. Non stop. You'll slow down organically. Lean in now
the only constant is change. A child is always growing as soon as you master one thing, you're learning the next whether it's diapers, eating, or opinions when they get older
it will get easier. Nobody tells you how hard it is, how lonely it gets in the beginning. It's not you. It's hard. But you can do this.
if the meal train hasn't left the station, prepare for existential dread around the time household hormones taper off. Everyone wants to see the newborn, but there's less help later when you actually need it
make life easy. Pay for help you can afford. Pre-Cut produce, delivery, prepared foods, bulk frozen, make it easy on yourself. This isn't forever. You deserve some grace
if baby is alive, it's going to be okay. That's your only job. Love the shit out of that little one and keep it alive, and you're succeeding
oxygen mask is real af. Hold it tight.


            
          