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If a person can readily describe their failings it could seem like a red flag because they have failings, but everyone has failings and being aware of them is a positive.
Also, the only way one can improve themselves is if they acknowledge their failings first. It doesn't have to be public, but if it is, it means they have already made their first step.
If you don’t cringe at some of your behaviors 10 years ago, then you’re either a a teenager or somehow stopped maturing.
Idk. I recognize a lot of my beliefs and behaviours as cringe, but I think I've cringed so hard at them that I'm now on the other side of that. I look back at my ignorant, gullible, past-self with compassion and the understanding that I'm still likely holding on to incorrect beliefs (and that I'll likely continue to grow through them) It's partly why I tend to be so argumentative, I think. (How do you grow without challenge?)
I currently hold the belief of: Love yourself, it'll help to generate more compassion for those around you
(Though I confess I still have many moments of wanting to call people idiots, and it takes a lot to realize that I, too, could be the idiot. It's a process, ya know?)