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I really do think this is a straight man experience. There are no shortage of compliments among gay men and not in a sexual way. I do wish it were more common among men in general to compliment each other without people making it weird or thinking there must be an underlying reason for it besides just being kind to one another.
Sometimes it's where the compliments come from. I get no shortage of compliments about my work, but those barely move the needle emotionally, I've always been a lot of labor for a lot of people, being recognized in that light isn't exactly flattering. In fact it's the only light I feel I get any recognition in.
Yeah, I imagine, it's reversed for many women. That they get compliments about their looks a lot, but would feel much more strongly about a once-in-5-years compliment on their work...