Update: I contacted with current big owners, other older friends and lastly from some friends from here. Mostly all of them living in US so they don’t want/can’t host it. So I’ll keep hosting without being on moderation side. @gavi@lemmynsfw.com will post about details I guess. @gavi@lemmynsfw.com is the new top admin.
As you know, it has been 2 weeks since I opened the instance and it has grown quite a lot. Likewise, the time I have to devote to this work has increased a lot.
I'm dealing with lemmynsfw more than my IRL job right now :D This is bothering me. Also, having an NSFW instance instead of a normal instance makes things much more difficult. If you remember; I had my biggest scale fuck up with the post "we allow loli content" :) This situation wore me out. Also a lot of problems are bothering me, both as a software and as a community.
That's why I'm thinking of transferring the instance and the domain to a person I trust. Who can maintain the deployments and also know this stuff. I will also roll over any donations made, excluding the current month's expenses.
I'm sorry if I've upset anyone. That's all from me.
I agree. Presenting a united front within the admin team is likely the best way to move forward from here, as well as to best move forward and address some recent problems. I think communities like these are important, specifically well managed NSFW communities. NSFW communities are going to exist regardless, but careful coordinated moderation really needs to be a priority to make it a space that fosters content that can exist in a legal and safe fashion. I feel also if this community is going to survive and maintain federation with other instances, there needs to be a means of establishing direct communication with other instance admins. I've reached out to some yiffit admins today to try and create a line of communication at least on that end. I think generally though that instance admins even outside of lemmynsfw need to coordinate together regardless and have open lines of communication to make sure their communities are interacting in healthy ways as well. That open line of communication between instance management helped mastodon stabilize as a community when a bunch of users flooded in.
The Fediverse is built for community, collectivism and collective action. Reddit is built to funnel people, Lemmy is built to connect. It is a different beast and social spaces like this work best with social collaborative teams. People also need breaks from this stuff, especially if there's spaces like this where they may be exposed to emotionally disturbing things... Most Mastodon Servers run with teams. @yay@lemmynsfw.com I am not your target demographic, but there is certainly potential and need for a space like this here. It is also important to have an admin team that cares as you seem to. There are tonnes of similar content on Mastodon as well if you look, you may be able to ask the admin teams there for advice. Because you are pioneering it here, you will have to go through the trials they did, but there are friends here and help, if you ask. It seems that you are trying and that is not a bad thing and should be encouraged. I will probably block this server tbh eventually but I want there to be spaces here that are not for me. You are building something new, it's ok to falter.
Diplomacy is another big issue, but yes I agree. Better to be proactive than reactive on that front