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submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by r3df0x@7.62x54r.ru to c/autism@lemmy.world
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I've had problems with roommates on the spectrum that I rent out to who seem to think that they should ask for explanations of rules as a way of trying to argue. Normally I'd assume they're just trying to be jerks and look for backdoor ways of arguing or "concern trolling," but I'm open to the slim possibility that they don't actually understand or this is their way of trying to discuss it.

They also try to argue and play lawyer games when it comes to guilt. If I see a plate in their room, they're getting fined for eating in there. It doesn't matter if it was someone else because they allowed it.

It occurred to me that they might genuinely not understand what is going on.

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[–] ShunkW@lemmy.world 67 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

You fine people for eating in their own bedroom? The fuck is wrong with you?

This isn't because they're autistic. It's because you're a giant gaping asshole and they truly don't understand your insane rules.

[–] FlapKap@feddit.dk 22 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I was about to ask the same question just worded much less strongly. Why do you fine them for eating in their room? If they are renting a room from you they should be able to do whatever they want in there as long as they are not destroying stuff or disturbing you/ neighbours

[–] Unaware7013@kbin.social 6 points 11 months ago

Could be related to pest issues. If you have problems with mice or roaches, I'd absolutely not even blink at a rule like that. Especially if they're leaving dishes and shit just sitting out on the reg.